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Birthday present/plans for new boyfriend?

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Ollivander · 27/10/2018 13:15

I've been seeing someone for about a month, it's his birthday in a couple of weeks, then mine a week after. Things are moving along quite quickly and he's already let slip that he's booked a weekend away for my birthday weekend with an activity and meal out, plus presents, one of which is possibly expensive. We have planned in advance as needed to confirm a child-free weekend and sort cover.

He's been really sweet and says he wants to spoil me, but am a bit concerned now that I can't afford to go all out for his birthday. I'm going to take him out for a meal then have a few gift ideas, none really expensive. We both have kids so can't make plans for any other weekend, I will be spending his actual birthday evening with him (after work and staying over).

Am I overthinking this, or is there anything else I can do for his birthday (without spending too much as I'm on more of a tight budget!) Any ideas gratefully welcomed!

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dirtybadger · 27/10/2018 13:25

It's his choice to spend a lot. Don't if you can't!

I had been dating DP for 6 months when it was his birthday, I got him a book. I wouldn't be spending more than £10-20 on someone after a couple of months. Unless you're on a high income. In which case I have no input as I don't really have a financial frame of reference.

userofthiswebsite · 27/10/2018 14:36

Tricky isn't it!
I've got someone who I've been seeing for about 5 months soon and it's a 'big' birthday so trying to figure out what would be appropriate!

Ollivander · 27/10/2018 16:38

Thanks for replies. Yes, it's tricky! Think I'm going to stick with current plan of a few small gifts plus meal - we seem to be on same wavelength and appreciate each other's position re work/kids/money without having gone into too much detail yet. Can't go OTT with Christmas coming up! Good luck with your present shopping user, maybe something hobby related or a voucher for something to do together?

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junebirthdaygirl · 28/10/2018 08:49

Well the meal out, weekend away is for him too so something ye both can enjoy together. Just buy what you would buy if your own birthday wasn't for months.

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