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Still sad, feeling like he was "the one"

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MrsWagnerpies · 26/10/2018 12:23

I've been separated a long time but every single day I miss my ex husband. Some days it's just there in the background and some days it's more difficult, especially when I see him. I'd no idea it would feel this sad for so long.

I have this feeling of him being the one I was supposed to spend my life with. Someone I can't replace. Sounds silly written down. But it's a huge sadness and regret. Rationally I dont believe in there being "the one". But that's how it feels.

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velourvoyageur · 26/10/2018 12:38

I'm sorry OP it sounds like you're really hurting.

He is of course irreplaceable (as you will be to him, regardless of the split) - but if you do want to be with someone, there's every chance you will find someone who in their own unique way will make you just as happy? It's precisely because they would be unique that you just can't imagine it yet. And then probably you won't think about your ex so much.
Take care of yourself

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MrsWagnerpies · 26/10/2018 13:10

Thank you velourvoyageur. I really can't imagine being with someone else, but I get your point I've had my little sad moment for today. Onwards...

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AlohaFi · 13/11/2018 14:29

Any chance on reconciliation?

Getonthatbroomandfly · 13/11/2018 18:52

What happened @MrsWagnerpies that caused you to separate. Understand if you'd rather not say. Just thinking if it's something you feel can be worked on/forgiven would you talk to him?

ravenmum · 13/11/2018 19:16

That must have been a really deep, close, meaningful relationship for you to feel like that. Maybe it really is better to have loved and lost, and all that...even if it is shit!

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MrsWagnerpies · 13/11/2018 20:30

Posted this a couple of weeks ago so i have had time to think. Regret and wishing you can turn back the clock are difficult and painful feelings/thoughts - but maybe also easy feelings to wallow in. 20 year is a lot to grieve, my whole adult life. Even if leaving was 100% the right thing it'd still take time to move on.

Also...we have young children together. Its difficult to get the space to move on mentally.

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MegFlyAway2 · 13/11/2018 20:41

I feel this way about my ex. Separated 3 years now, except we haven’t been able to truly separate from each other.

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MrsWagnerpies · 13/11/2018 21:13

It's difficult isn't it MegFlyAway2.

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