What is best way for a man to sweep a woman off her feet?

[VoluptuaGoodshag]

After a conversation we had today about me feeling rather unappreciated and unloved. I asked him why he never does anything to sweep me off my feet and he said what like? Sad thing is I couldn't think of a reply, thinking that if he didn't know how to make a romantic gesture then what hope.

Mmm. Yes, you want to get this one right, as if he's not great at thinking these things up (a lot of people aren't tbh IMO) he may repeat the same thing again and again.

For me it's pretty simple - if they plan something they think you will like, and plan it properly, then bingo. But I'm easy - a lie-in, Sunday papers appearing under a large smile, and then being left to my own devices for a couple of hours, and I'm a new woman.

At least he asked, I suppose. Hope that you get through this and find a better time in the relationship.

I'm not sure there is any stock answer. I know in my marriage, the way to my heart is through my stomach! He's a fantastic cook and likes cooking new things for us as a family. I also love the way he gets things wrong, but tries so hard. He bought me carnations for our wedding anniversary last year telling me, 'I bought these because you had them in your bouquet didn't you?' Er,no actually - it was roses, carnations are on the dinner service! But the thought was so there, it was good enough for me!

My DH is a lovely man but I've been feeling pretty neglected as he has done nothing, absolutely nothing romantic in ages. I kept on at him that we needed a weekend away, just us but as I organise everything else I told him to sort it out and to get babysitters. He duly did and then moaned for the entire weekend, he really spoilt it for me.

what on earth was he moaning about? the work involved in setting it up? or just general moaning?

Yes, I have an unromantic male, as well. But then again, I'm not too romantic myself. I appreciate the little gestures - sometimes they can speak volumes.

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What on earth was he moaning about?

ex bf used to do all sorts, strawberries frozen into heart shaped ice cubes and served in champagne cocktails,cook nice meals, massages, take me out for dinner, naughty nights in, nice breaks away

plus he cleaned my house which was the bloody icing on the cake imo

A big romantic gesture would be a whole day or weekend where dh had planned everything, enabling us to spend some quality time together with no effort or responsibility on my part. Not happened yet but look forward to it one day...

He moaned because .....

• the weather was bad
• he had a man cold
• he didn't like where we were sat in the restaurant and even though we got shifted to a better table he kept going on about "oh imagine if we were still sitting over there". At which point I said "well we are not so will you **ing shut up about it and put a ruddy smile on your face"
• the heating in the room
• the breakfast set up the next morning
• the weather
• the weather
• the staff in the hotel .......

Next time I go away I think I'll go on my own

Oh, dear Volly. That's not good at all.

Is/was he always like this?

Surprises, even just teeny ones which are free or fairly normal, like getting home to find an unexpected meal ready.

It is better if it comes from them & no prompting though, or leave the suggestion long enough so that you don't think it'll ever happen!

Now that I think about it, yes . I had to go on and on about a weekend away before he finally booked it. He has no idea. He does do things like hang out a washing, clear up the dishes and bathes the kids but never anything nice like "you put your feet up love and I'll sort it out" I've been feeling shit all week but never got much sympathy. He came home yesterday and didn't even ask how I was. Sometimes feel that even if I had my limbs hanging off it would just be an inconvenience to him

Off to watch Coast as I fancy Neil Oliver and then Seven ages of Rock coz Led Zepellin are on it. Shall return in a couple of hours.

Well, you're obviously a good shag, so there's something wrong with him.

And you like Led Zep - which raises you very high in my estimation.

Sorry you're feeling crap at the moment. Can't help feeling that a row is on the cards between you and dh .. maybe it's timely.

I thank you. I am however deeply disappointed at the pathetic Zep coverage on tonights show and the OTT coverage of Bruce Springsteen. Call me a philistine (sp) but I just don't get him. Dh thinks he's great (this is worrying now)

Well dh did for me earlier, I was out horseriding for 3 hrs this afternoon, meanwhile DH entertained 3 children plus an extra boy on a play date, played football with them, got rid of a dead tree in the garden, fed them, fed dogs, cleaned up, laid table for our tea and greeted me with a cold glass of wine!
Boy he must be desperate for sex

{grin}

I always mess those faces up. Wish my husband would help like that. And a glass of wine.....lucky you.

We are rock sisters. Springsteen is crap. He always reminds me of a soft toy on the Muppet show ... short little arms on a stick.

BORN IN THE USA ......

Yes I think we get the picture.