how can i make my man fall in love with me again

[lucyellensmum]

my DP used to worship the ground i walked on, not being vain, he just really really loved me and would do anything for me, i felt safe, secure and loved.....yesterday he said all he feels is hate and resentment, he took it back straight away and said i have been being horrible too him (news to me). I have been depressed i admit but i dont want to lose him, how can i make him love me again? I have let myself go i admit, but i've always been a scruff bag, its not bothered him before. Our dd is 2, we both worship her, but our relationship is cold and it hurts

weve been together for 15 years btw and i thought we were for keeps, what did i do wrong?

luyellen'smum -how awful for you. Have you been to marriage guidance? Sometimes all you need is to talk to each other, and listen to each other, and marriage guidance will help with this.

First don't panic. I would start with a bit of a make over and stop being a scruff bag you'd be surprised how much more confident you will feel and it is bound to help your relationship. Try and spend some quality time together and keep communicating. This is probably a blimp we all have them and it will pass.

yes, organising a night out together -get a babysitter, book a restaurant. That's a starting point.

done all that, not the marriage guidance, ive suggested it, he laughed. I just dont want to lose him, we were so good together and i still love him. I just dont know where to start

im thinking i should throw my hands up, admit defeat but then what? ive no money, ive no job, and fuck it, i still love him...but im making him unhappy and thats not fair on him, me or our dd

if he really doesn't want to go to marriage guidance, then you could go on your own. Don't give up just yet. What you have is worth fighting for, if you've been so happy before, then you will be happy together again.

what used to get you two going, make you laugh etc? think about the things you used to do together and rediscover them.
i hope you manage to work things through, good luck x

I once read that you are never really in love with someone, but are in love with how they make you feel. I think it is true.

I don't know how or if that helps, but it has helped me with DP for the last 10 years...