Feeling lonely and unsettled

[Diffident]

I'm in my 40s and a man. I have this week off work (a job which I hate and need to leave, more of that later.) I relocated to a European city which is great but in the 18 months I've been here I made a few friends/acquaintances. But it has just hit me how lonely I am. I don't want to relocate to the UK, I don't want to at all actually but feeling down and alone like this the whole time is just no good for me and really affecting my mental health. I'm hoping to change career and become self employed but also worried that will negatively impact my relationship prospects.. I know there are challenges for everyone but honestly I feel so alone sometimes and it feels like there is no emotional support.

Are you single? If so, are you looking for a partner? If so are you doing online dating? Do you do any sports or hobbies and if not are there any you'd like to do? Great opportunity to meet like minded people.

If you don't like tour job - are you looking for a new job? Is it the work or the company or your colleagues?

Don't they have Tinder there? Can be very good for meeting people.

Thanks for the replies. I'm single yes. The thing is part of me feels I have to be in a more sustainable career or else have amassed lots of capital in order to even think about dating. I have this idea that I should be out all the time with an impressive social life and glittering career. Instead I just work and save and go out when I can. I just wish I was happier and felt less alone. I desperately need to leave by job and do something else. I hated all the jobs I have ever done although I've done relatively well and am almost financially secure. I grew up around instability and serious financial problems so I'm always obsessed with security and never felt I could take and risks. Thé jij la stressful, isolating, boring and I don't fit in with most of my colleagues.

Most of us feel like that sometimes. When I was younger the words of Desiderata helped me to feel better in the world. Google it and see what you think.

Please don't live your life by what you think you should be doing or should have achieved by a certain age. All you need to do is do what feels right at the time. Don't do a job that you don't enjoy and don't think that your value to someone else lies with your job or wage.

Life passes very quickly - enjoy it.