have i really done so so wrong?

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Think this will be a long one,....
My dp has just found out that in the first few months of us being together i cheated (i dont think i did.
On the fone last night he got it out of me. When we got together at first it was just sex for months and months, in about the 4th month he told me he had slep with someone else, (while he was away at work) he told me it wouldnt happen again and i was ok with that cos i had no real feelings for him.
Then last night he found out that when he dumped at 8 months 2gether, i went on holiday and spent a night with a bloke, now he says this is still cheating cos he foned me on holiday to get back together with me. this was nearly 5 years ago and at the time we wernt in love, we didnt even speak it was just sex.Hes called me from a slut to a whore and demanded to know if i was having orgies out there. What do i do, we have a beautiful son together and our relationship was pretty perfect before he found out bout this?

Oh ffs tell him to go and boil his head. Stupid hypocritical bloke, so you forgave him but he's dragging out a holiday indescretion, 5 years ago, whilst you were split up. Do you think that is reasonable behaviour?

agree tis bollox, you were single at the time.

he's being silly. But he's only just found out right? So I'm guessing this is just initial reaction stuff. He is being unreasonable, but he might just need time to get to a point where he's thinking about it rationally.

he slept with someone else

you slept with someone else

but you are a whore

what a charmer!

But his argument is that he called me on holliday to ask me back, at the time i just thought he didnt want me to go with anyone else and thats why he wanted me back. But before that our relationship wwas soley sex nothing else, thats why i dont see it as cheating we had no feelings for each other than we could make each other cum! so how do i sort this one out?

tell him you are in awe of his well-deserved degree in bovine defecation but if he could fuck off for a week and come back having grown a brain you'd be doubly impressed!

Tell him to dry his eyes and stop being such a feckin pratt.

Thanks guys this is heilpin me feel better about it. Just a bit hard that hes at work for the next 2 weeks and he can only call me. just waiting for his call at 3 now, hope hes chilled out and see's it for what it is. Ill update later, thanks again.x

oh you poor thing how awful, that isnt cheating in my book?

stay strong, and hope you come through it ok

i only hope he isnt using this an excuse to mess things up.

i am a single mum of 2 years and i would advise working thigs out over splitting

((((((hugs))))))

Tell him to either grow up or get stuffed. No one is entitled to assume a monogamous or exclusive relationship without prior discussion.
And a bloke who thinks its OK for him to shag around if he apologises, but a woman who does so is a "whore" is a bloke not worth hanging on to.

Tell him to get his arse out of his hands and start behaving like an adult.

Just spoke to him and all is good now, he understands that it was a long time ago and a long time before we were serious, says he wont bring it up again and he loves me lots!!!