Hi just thought I'd ask you all your valid opinions. I was talking to my friend today about the time I found porn on my DHs lap top. He denied it was him, blamed his brother then said it was because I was at work. I wasn't happy because we'd not discussed that kind of thing, and I just felt why does he need it. Good sex life. Anyway accepted it and he stupidly promised he wouldn't use it again. That wasn't the problem it was the secrecy, maybe he was just embarrassed about it all. I then found a letter I wasn't snooping I thought it was junk mail, it shows you how long ago it was and he'd subscribed to a sex channel after saying that he'd never lie to me again. Moved on but my friend said he'd broken a marriage rule and wasn't open and honest. We were talking about socio pathic tendencies and I just felt as if the ground was opening up beneath me. I don't want to re write history but he had so many traits. Lots of my friends saying he was cold, not close to his children. Not much empathy. How would you have felt about the porn?