When they go low

[Cleophie]

I’m popping my Mumsnet cherry with this post folks! My DD is a wonderful human being. I would say that I know and do try to look at situations from every angle I promise. DD takes most things in her stride but occasionally the haters (thankfully a minority) pierce her guard. I know she would be mortified if I got involved in any way. I’ve done so in the past with fairly disastrous results so am a little more cautious these days except when it feels like actual bullying. Here’s the craic: She’s having a party. Not everyone is invited. In retaliation, on the very same evening, these wonderful specimens are holding a ‘We Hate DD’ dinner. One of the organisers of this bitchiness is deputy head girl. Hardly model behaviour. What would you do? Nothing? I’m currently watching Michelle Obama’s “when they go low...” speech to keep my perspective and I do feel sorry for them but this is nasty iIMO.

How old is she? It’s nasty and I’d be having words with school in most cases.

They're all 17. Old enough to know better.

The school should be told really as the deputy head girl should not be involved in bullying like that and they should know she doesn't deserve the position of power. However, these things are always awkward at that age. Would telling them that make her life hell at school? What does she want you to do? Do you know the ringleaders' parents?

I think we're going to try to rise above it all for now tbh. While it seems grossly unfair, a formal complaint would make life v hard for DD you're right to suggest. They get away with it because this year is so critical I couldn't bear to make matters worse for her.