If you met your current partner when you were over 40, how did you meet?

[permana]

Inspired by another thread.
I've been single for over a year after my divorce. Haven't met any men during that year as I work in a female only environment, and I don't go to pubs/bars.
How did you meet your dp if you are over 40?

Online...3 and half years ago, I was 47 he was 44. We got married in July this year.

On POF, me 50 him 54. Bought a house together after 13 months, getting married next year (will be nearly 2 years by then). I'm incredibly happy!!

On tinder.

Youngsters at work told me to go on there. I liked it, normal looking guys looking for love. I swiped right by accident, as he was soooo hot, but young and I normally swiped left if they were too young for me. I'm six years older than him.

Anyway then he'd swiped right on me too, and he started writing to me. I'd been writing to a man for a month or so who was turning out to not be very nice when this new guy was VERY nice. Very interested, always replied.....asked me out.

Best first date ever followed by what is turning out to be a lovely relationship. He's gentle, huge and muscley, sweet, bright, kind, easygoing, good cook, good listener, amazing in bed and just generally utterly brighten some up my life.

Go for it OP. State what you want in your profile, I said a lifelong relationship, and get out there. You've got forty years yet x

I met my dh through karate. We were both in our early 40s. He was an instructor. Two years on we are married and have a brilliant hobby in common.

What a marvellously hopeful and life affirming thread.
Thanks ladies, you've cheered me up rightly.
I'm still living with the ex and its tough, but I know something good is just around the next corner!

I wasn't over 40 but my DH was when we met. We met at work.

We went to school together, the same year in fact. Never really chatted. Virtually everyone from my year became friends on Facebook after a reunion. 3 years later we started chatting, met for a walk & a drink got on brilliantly, kept meeting & message every night. Nearly 3 months in & I'm so happy. Can I add that he's not the type that I would usually go for looks, or personality wise, but he is 100% the best so far.
If this makes everyone feel better my 79 year old Dad has just started dating & is so loved up. Such a lovely thing to see

Have just braved OLD with Guardian soulmates and am chatting to a couple of men first online then on WhatsApp. Both seem nice and friendly and I've arranged to meet one for a drink this weekend and then hopefully will ,set the other one soon. It feels strange though to meet both and I feel as if I'm cheating them even though I don't even know if either will lead to anything. Sorry to derail, but is it normal to see more than one guy at the time until it gets serious?

@permana, before OLD you had to take your chance.

I was roped into a neighbourhood action thing to stop some houses of historic interest being demolished and DH had been asked to do the posters for the campaign. We met at the first meeting and married two and a half years later. I was 46 when we met. He was 48.

Found out we had lots of people in common, but had never previously met.

I'm 44 he's 41.. known each other 5 years as friends.. met when I moved into the village he lived in.. lots of mutual friends/match makers.. had drunken dalliances during the 5 years but proper relationship terms now... 

I met my OH on Tinder, I'm 53 and he's 51

In a freeserve chat room over 16 yrs ago, been living together 14 ys, married 2. Oh and moved in with him after 3 months

Sitting in a park. He and a mate were on two chairs but there was a spare third at their table. No room on any other tables & I wanted to sit, chill out and read the Sunday’s so asked if I could sit in spare chair. Got talking ......

On POF and well over 40

On Match .com.
Was married 25 years .
Single for 2 whilst I got life / home ect sorted .
Dated for a year once a month sometimes once a fortnight from Match. Had v strict boundaries ect .
Every date was lovely and great company but when I met DP ( quite fed up by then ) we have never missed a day without seeing each other or talking now for almost 2 years .
He's 4 years younger than me so not something I anticipated . He's no dc and never married and I'm 47 with 4 dc .

So very happy and fingers crossed he's a keeper .
Good luck OP
I also regularly read the thread on here re online dating and followed their rules . Only a bit of fun but seriously helpful whilst OLD ! X

Not me but amongst my friends it's been a mixture of OLD and work colleagues plus my lovely widowed sister met her gorgeous boyfriend at a poetry group.

Guardian Soulmates, he popped up before I’d even finished uploading my profile pics.

Thought he looked ‘odd’ haha!!!! but he sounded not like the rest, more genuine.

Met up and just fell in love instantly. We had/have loads in common.

He is amazing.

Nearly three years now and we plan to move in, in few years (we both have dc).

Soulmates at 40. 10 years ago. He's an absolute dream.

I'm so chuffed with all these lovely positive posts😎

Sorry didn't mean the cool emoji!

It's so lovely to hear all these lovely outcomes, the relationships board is usually a pretty depressing place! As soon as I can get some decent photos I'll be trying OLD with a bit more optimism after hearing all your wonderful outcomes

I'm nearly 50 and been single for 2 years. I've barely spoken to an eligible bachelor in that time. No one at work , and only really speak to other school mums. I plan on doing OLD at some point but I've got to gear up to it. So many bad stories about the men on there. Also with the 3 kids I have so little time, so I might wait a few years, until I no longer require babysitters.
Good luck OP , come back and tell your positive stories of OLD soon

I was 42 and I met him in a wine bar. Just like in olden times, he started chatting to me, bought me a drink, and we arranged to meet for lunch.