What is going on?

[Amiabusive18]

DH and I have been together 10 years and have a 2 year old. He has just aggressively sworn at me and said I am abusive for sending some passive aggressive text message eg ‘are you going to make dinner tonight or am I going to have to do it again?’. Yes it was passive aggressive but it was the one night of the week when he is suppose to cook.

Things have been rubbish for a few weeks. Am I abusive? What now?

Christ how awful. Has he sworn at you before or shown signs of verbal abuse?

It's a monumental overreaction to his wife who is presumably exhausted with a 2yo (it's a hard age), from a man who only has one night a week to cook?

What a dick.

He has never sworn at me before.

I sent the message at the weekend when I was trying to decide what to give DD for lunch and his reaction was last night.

Things have been a bit strained to the last few weeks. He is pissed at me for agreeing to see my Mum in hospital (numerous health issues) which meant he would have to cancel a planned night out without me checking with him. He said last night that he thought my sister should have down and her husband looked their kids. I reminded him that my sister at being at a and e until 2 am one morning and then up at 6 for her full on job as well as having visited durring the week so she needed to catch up on sleep. I should have asked him but I was trying to organise when everyone was visiting and check on my Dad. I was annoyed at his lack of emotional support. My Mum frequently ends up in hospital and we know one day, sooner rather than later, that one admission will be the beginning of the end for her.

I can’t help notice that his attitude has been worse since I became a SAHM a few months ago.