Is he over-reacting or am I being selfish?

[Mumof234]

For the last few weeks my husband has started kissing me before he leaves for work (he used to do this before we had children) at approx 5am most day. His alarms wakes me, then he disturbs me when he comes back in to get dressed (after showering) before disturbing me once more to say goodbye (after making a coffee and something to eat). My children have been waking me in the night recently too so I have been having lots of broken sleep. I asked my husband tonight if he would mind kissing me goodbye when he has finished getting dressed instead of waking me again as he leaves. He told me I was selfish and wouldn't let me explain my reasons. He said that I get to sleep for 2 more hours than him (by the time I do eventually go back to sleep I normally get 30mins before the children wake me!) while he is the one getting up so early to provide for us! He says he won't bother kissing me anymore and stormed off!
Please tell me it was not an unreasonable request for me to make?!?

Things have been strained for quite a while so he thinks by kissing me goodbye he is making an effort.

Context might help explain things too, when you raised it with him was it along the lines of

"I appreciate you making the effort, but I'm really tired, do you think we could just do the one kiss when you get up?"

Or was it more like

"FFS stop waking me twice in the morning with your attempts to be affectionate, once is more than enough!"

He probably is angry because he feels a bit rejected but I totally get your point and he should too once he's gotten over his tantrum :p I hope anyway

My dh has to get up super early for work and he has a quiet bath and has all his clothes out ready for work downstairs. He certainly doesn’t come back into the room to wake me up and I am generally able to sleep well even if woken. He gives me a kiss every time he leaves the house usually but certainly not at 5am. That’s the considerate thing to do.

Who gives a fuck if he’s annoyed?!
I bet the real reason he’s annoyed is because you called him on it.
Start waking him in the night, with hugs and kisses, if he doesn’t like it say well I’m only showing you attention like you wanted.

2am: You hear a child cry. You kiss him, and say "darling, do you hear one of the children crying?" Don't leave the room until he confirms that he has heard child crying. When the child is settled, return to bed, kiss him, and say "It was Emily that was crying, she was upset because of x, y, z. Can I have a kiss goodnight?"

4am: You hear a child cry. Repeat the above.

If he works on weekends, bring the children in to give him a kiss when they wake up. Get them dressed in your bedroom. Get the children to give their daddy another kiss before leaving the room.

It won't be a problem for him being woken up repeatedly for kisses, will it?

*If he sleeps in on weekends