Hi ladies,
I am 35, and find myself single again. My partner broke up with at the end of August after three month relationship. We met on Tinder and both came off the app at the end of July, after two months and committed ourselves to each other. We slept together after three weeks. I stayed over four times where nothing happened.
A month after deleting Tinder and he calls it off. He is 38 and has been divorced for 5 years. They were together 12 years, married for seven. His departure came out of the blue, which he acknowledged. He said he just doesn't see us falling in love and he has to listen to his gut. We got on so well, plenty in common. On the days we didn't see each other he would ring and we would talk for upwards of an hour. Often two/three hour long phone calls in the evening.
I'd met his family, he'd met my friends. We saw each other three or four days a week - I would stay at his every weekend for two or three nights. Friday to Monday was the norm. He had a dog, I had a dog (both Jack Russells) and we joked it was a sign linking us together. A happy family. I was very very happy.
When he split up with me, he cried, holding me, saying he just didn't see us falling in love. He said he was very happy with me and could've easily carried on for months longer but he worried a year would pass and he would never be in love with me. He left, and later that evening reconfirmed what he'd said verbally in a text. I did not reply and haven't heard from him since, nor have I contacted him. The very next day my friend saw him on Tinder with a photograph of him that I'd taken. This was five weeks ago now.
I am not hanging on, but I have been struggling with moving on. I can't bring myself to go back on Tinder. He was the first man I'd met in over a year of being single that I actually saw a future with. I was starting to fall in love with him. My last relationship ended March 2017. We'd been together 18 months and he said he just didn't want to get married or have kids ever, so didn't see the point in staying together. Another shock exit. The relationship before then was five years long - we met at work - but just weren't right for each other. Square peg and a round hole.
So here I am again. I feel as wounded from the end of this three-month relationship, as I did the 18-month one.
My worries, which I am stricken with and cry myself to sleep at night, is I will never have children. I'm 36 in August next year.
I just don't know how to meet anyone. Nor do I feel ready. Surely I shouldn't taken this long to get over a 3-month long relationship. Why don't I feel ready?
I met both my exes on Tinder but I feel like no one on there wants a committed relationship. They're happy just dating but don't want anything long-term. I've got two break-ups with proof of that.
I am currently running my own business from home, so I don't meet people. I find it hard to meet people in life. I've started looking for a career change to get a job in London so I can meet people.
My question is did anyone meet their significant other after 35 and how did you meet?
Any advice on my predicament would be amazing. xxxx