Do I still have a chance?

[Itsonlyme11]

I’m not a mum, though I desperately would love to be one in the future, but I’m starting to think that it isn’t very likely. I think this board is a wonderful place where women can support each other and I’ve seen it in the responses I’ve read on this board. So I’m asking for your opinion!

I’m 32 and never been in a serious relationship. Until about 2 years ago I was about 50kg overweight (since the age of 14) and never found anyone who could see past the weight. I’ve been a normal weight in the past two years and have tried the internet and been on a couple of dates but that’s it. None of the men I know in person seem interested in me or they got married in their 20s. I feel like I must be incredibly unattractive - though I have had women say to me that I’m not (though I feel like they are sometimes just being nice). I have some lovely girlfriends and make friends easily so I think I have an okay personality.

I’m starting to feel like I’m never going to find someone and start a family. I’d love to know how many of you found your partner in your mid 30s and have had kids? Is there still a chance at 32 for someone who isn’t the most attractive AND has never been in a real relationship before?

Yes just get out there

I feel exactly the same however different situation for me. Just got out of a 4relationship that was abusive.

I am 29 and really starting to panic I won't find anyone to love again and that it'll be too late for me to have children 😩

I Can't give any answers but I just wanted to say I completely understand 😢

Just keep getting out there.
Try joining clubs that you have an interest in so you meet like minded people.
meetup.com is pretty good.

I have a friend who never had a serious relationship.
Still not in one now.
At 37/38 decided to go down the sperm donor route and has a wonderful child now.
There are plenty of options out there so look into all of them.
But at 32 you still have plenty of time.

Enjoy your life and it will happen as and when it's supposed to.

If it makes you feel any better, my OH and I had a baby 16 months ago and he was 37 when we met.

He was starting to give up really and I was starting to resign myself to a life of celibacy as the OLD world was fucking depressing 😂😂😂

But we managed to find each other. I'm 30 and he's 40 now.

Chin up OP. Keep the bar high and don't give up. You will find a companion who gives you sparks and fireworks 😊 sometimes the wait and sifting through all the crap is worth it!

I met my husband at 37, married 7 months later and now 3.5 years on have a 20 month old and another due soon. I had never had a LTR prior to meeting my husband, and briefly dated a couple of times. I'd given up hope, but joined OLD and met my Mr Right. It can happen. Good luck and have hope.

Just to add too, that I've always been overweight, felt unattractive, but my husband loves me and my curves. Also, I had decided not to settle for 'Just anyone'. I rather wait than settle for the wrong man for me.

Thank you so much ladies! Your posts were encouraging to me!

I met my boyfriend at 40, now 41 and pregnant. I didn’t want to settle. I do feel lucky at my age but I think you really do have time so try not to pressure yourself.