I really hate my life

[autumnharvestmoon]

I seem stuck in a place where I am so lonely and yet unable to change things for myself. I really, really lack confidence and so struggle with OD but don’t know how I can meet someone.

I felt so bad this weekend I just wanted to die to be honest (I am not saying for a second I will do anything stupid but I can’t stand my life at the moment!)

Me too.

I'm sorry you feel this way. Sending a very unmumsnetty hug x

me too. Sorry to be of not any help. I feel totally invisible. Hugs to you OP and PP both.

it seems we are not alone.. same here, but feel utterly stuck and scared to change anything

Just remember things change when you least expect. Also count your blessings. Love to you all

Thank you all

Do you have any hobbies? You could meet new friends or potential partners at clubs or groups where you have a common interest. Going to a fitness class or yoga studio is also good for helping to beat loneliness at the weekend.

I persevere with failing / damaging relationships because I'm terrified of just this. You have my sympathy but my admiration too. This would be me, if I had any guts.

I personally go out a lot to gym and yoga, however don't really end up talking to people. Everyone has headphones at the gym, never makes eye contact, and leaves right after the class, or else they seem to be already with friends. I don't know how to approach people and end up feeling invisible. I could go to an event or a lecture and not talk to a single soul. I don't know what to say to people at all.

Oh I completely agree with you. Me too

Sorry, above comment in reply to dljlr

As a wise person once said, if you keep trying the same things and getting the same result, you can't be surprised.

However, as another wise person once said, you can change things and still get the same result. But at least you can say you tried.

Speaking as someone who has done all the things everyone says to try to meet someone over the last 8 years and got absolutely nowhere.

This is me too. I just don't know how to talk to people! I hope things get better for you.

It’s me too. I lay on the couch on Sunday because I felt so down and depressed I didn’t want to move. I don’t have an answer but you are not alone xx

So what would it take for you to want it enough to try ?

Sorry to others also feeling bad

I don’t fully understand your question victoria, sorry.

After I broke up with dp many years ago, I joined a Divorced and Separated Club. Really, it was for anyone on their own, looking for friends, company and possibly a new partner. They did coffee evenings at people's houses, Saturday night disco's, and days out. Worth looking for something like that?

What's your situation do you live alone?
I'd probably say you will meet a lot of people at the gym once they see you afew times?
Are you looking for a partner have you tried online to talk?

Do you find that at the gym? I just find people do their own thing and don’t really chat.

I heard that walking a dog is a great conversation starter.