I had posted this on my other thread, but thought I might be better on its own as it’s a different question from original.
My parents know and bfs parents do. But we’ve agreed as have they, not to tell anyone else until we’ve had time to get used to things ourself.
I’m not sure what to do about my ex though. Dds too young really to tell her much so we’re waiting to tell her nearer the time and for now just let her slowly get used to bf being around a bit more. But at some point I’m going to start looking pregnant. I didn’t show for ages with dd, but my clothes already feel a bit tighter this time.
I don’t want him to just find out from mutual friends or from noticing, that doesn’t seem fair when it effects his child. Equally I’m no where near ready to be dealing with him about this yet.
Just wondered if anyone had any experience of telling a ex and when seems the right/fair time. Plus how on earth do I actually do it!
I’m 14 weeks at the moment, thinking of telling most other people after the next scan so 20 weeks (ish). I’m just stressing myself about if I should wait that long to speak to my ex or not. My bfs says it’s up to me, but he doesn’t see any need to rush to tell my ex. I don’t want to keep going over it with my bf, it’s akward he’s wanting to feel excited about our own baby and all I’m thinking about is my ex.
I know I’m probably just focusing on this because I’m stressed with the whole thing in general. But I feel like I can’t relax and feel excited until I’ve ticked off all the things I’ve to deal with first and the ex is feeling like the biggest thing on that list right now.