Is this the start of a downward slope....

[anonmum22]

By the time the evening comes and baby in bed, we just end up arguing over what to watch on telly as we both have different interests and either end up just sitting on our phones or going in separate rooms to do our own thing. It doesn't seem very healthy for a relationship 

It was for us unfortunately
Now just drifting apart and so far away I can't see us ever going back

I'm sorry to hear that. What's happening with you guys? Are you still together? Is there anything you are trying to do to rectify?

Just rolling with it and just being civil.

That's part of how we started drifting apart. Other things too have caused issues but it certainly hasn't helped at all that in an evening we don't really engage with each other. We are now facing these issues but I fear I am too far removed to get it back. My advice is to try and address it now, even if it's putting an evening aside each week to just make sure you sit down and chat for an hour, no TV or distractions, just to help you start reconnecting.

Going through the same thing myself. Once baby in bed we sit in silence, glazes at TV, whilst I wonder how we got like this.
We hardly have sex, not from him not wanting it but me. I'm not a tactile person whereas he is, and it's got to the stage where even hugging/kissing him is an effort.
Didn't always be like this but somehow it's how it is.. I'm on antidepressants & have been for yrs & can't climax which makes it all the more frustrating.
He says I always have a go at him but I can't see that... He snapped at baby other day & swore at him, he's 9mths old, which I think is pretty bad considering he hardly ever has him on his own...

Pleased it's not just us. Seems to be a common problem maybe. I always thought opposites attracted but it obviously comes with challenges.

@Sleepingdog123 you are completely right and I think maybe setting a movie night one night a week where we can pre plan something will be a good move forward. I don't want to not try. This isn't a direction I want to go in so hope that will help even if it is just one night a week.

@Welshheart it's just another added element when your little one is so young. My DD is 3 now but I remember when she was young like that all I cared about what getting to bed rather than any form of intimacy etc

That's a good idea, as you can chat about it after as well and it's nice neutral territory where you both get to give opinions and listen to the other, conversing on a subject that isn't house/kids/chores etc. Sounds silly but those basic communication skills are what my other half and I have lost, we are several years down the line though. I don't think it will take much for you to get back on track. Everyone says it, but it's so important to make time for just the two of you. To take care of your relationship. It's easy to bimble along with the chaos of life, but that connection is so important to retain. Good luck, I'm sure you won't need it though :)