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Funnyguy5280 · 20/10/2018 17:52

So here goes. I am a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. I married a woman I met in Alcoholics anonymous. We had a major fight she left and spent 2 weeks driving around the country. I was left alone and uncertain on what was happening. I got scared and alone I ended up drinking and I called a woman on a chat line to come to my home with drugs and the premise to have sex. I didn't have sex with her. Now my wife and I are back together I moved to a state I don't know far from my support system. She told me she thought I had lied about my relapse. I told her I had and I told her everything. Now with good reason she thinks I am a list and that I cheated on her. She has told me she will not have sex with me ever again. She says she will not trust me again. And she believes I will cheat again. Is my relationship doomed. I believe she will never have sex with me again. I am scared I will want to cheat or get attention elsewhere. Should I leave. I want to stay.

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MissConductUS · 20/10/2018 18:22

Just out of curiosity, how much clean time did you have before you relapsed? Congratulations, by the way, on doing it big.

Have you been clean since the hooker and blow incident? Focus on your sobriety.

As far as your relationship with your wife, stick a fork in it. It's done.

NotTheFordType · 20/10/2018 18:25

Sounds like your ex is looking for a reason to not engage with you.

Let him/her go and concentrate on you.

Funnyguy5280 · 20/10/2018 18:33

I really love her I had almost 3 years of sobriety. I now have 5 months. I would do anything to repair the damage and move on.

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MissConductUS · 20/10/2018 18:46

Are you going to meetings? How are you staying sober?

Are you living with your wife? Do you talk at all? If she left for two weeks after an argument there's a lot about the relationship you're not telling us.

How old are the two of you?

By the way, I have 24 years sober time.

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