Ground swallow me up

[ThisIsWhatItSoundsLike]

Just made an absolute tit of myself.

Been chatting to this guy for a few weeks all very flirty, starting to discuss meeting etc.

Today found myself at a loose end, knew he was too (conversations earlier in week) so took the bull by the horns, leaped in and asked did he want to meet up today.

That was 4 hours ago, got 2 blue ticks within a few mins of sending so I know he read it.

Response..... silence..... I can hear the silence it's that loud.

OMFG please let me die, or better still he died seconds after receiving my message and that's why he didn't respond.

If I block and delete him now do I look crazy ????

Chalk it up to experience x

Just ignore. Smile and wave, smile and wave. It is him who committed a social faux pas, not you. How easy is it to send a “I’m busy after all” message if he wasn’t interested?

Is it someone you know in real life or through online dating?

Ignore & move on.

How do you know him?

Don't feel bad! You were brave! And now you know not to waste anymore time on him.

Don't block and delete just yet though. Give it a few days on the off chance he has had a near death experience immediately after your message

Also, does everyone get the blue ticks? Can you turn that feature off?

I’m wondering whether he knows you know that he’s read it iyswim? Perhaps he’s going to pretend he never saw it...?

You don't need to have the ground swallow you up for doing something perfectly normal. You'd been talking about meeting up, and you suggested doing so. Rude of him not to reply, even if only to say no thanks, but you've done nothing embarrassing.

I wouldn't bother blocking him unless he later starts making a nuisance of himself.

My guess is that he either got cold feet or someone made what he thought was a better offer. His loss - just forget him.

Ye only online thankfully so I can blissfully pretend this never happened irl.

I hate boys

He's in the wrong. How rude. Although having said that there may be a perfectly good explanation. Just put it to the back of yr mind and get on with yr day.

Dont feel embarresed. Hes probably messaging loads of girls, or hes sat next to his girlfriend or he is in the pub showing his friends.

Either way, its his loss. Do not be his booty call if he does suggest hooking up tonight.

You deserve 100 times better

Why are you embarrassed? He’s being rude. The obvious next step was to meet, not ignore you.

You dodged a bullet. Found out early that he's rude and inconsiderate.
Move on to someone new. This one has shown who he is. He wanted to be in control of communication and any possible meet up. Hmmmm

funnily enough there are guys on dating sites who say they want a relationship, make themselves look interesting but actually have no intention of actually meeting someone in person, usally either married so dare not go over the line, or get off ego wise from the attention they get from messages, so this guy swipe left and forget him hes not that important plenty more fish in the sea, when i was online dating got loads of these , my current partner i messaged him first because i liked his profile, he must have looked at mine and his answer back was would you like to meet for coffee

You've not made a tit of yourself at all!

Don't delete him just yet, just in case there is a reason (monster hangover, still in bed? Not me projecting in the least!!)

If not, chalk it up to experience and don't give him a second thought. Unfortunately you find a few time wasters on OLD. My advice would be to meet ASAP be in future.

You did nothing wrong or even embarrassing. He may have never intended to actually meet up. Or he was busy. Who knows? Don't block him. See if he turns up again.

Why would you be embarrassed, it's a perfectly normal thing you've done and a perfectly normal question.

The issue is why he's behaved as he has. It's not hard to say, sorry not today, something came up. Just ignoring you would indicate he's panicked and isn't who he said he is.

He's the one who should be embarrassed (unless he has a genuine reason for not replying I course, although that seems unlikely). What a time waster.