Hello
I'm a happily married mum of 3 with a lovely husband and a good job. My in laws are divorced and remarried and busy but we do see them.
Basically my FOO is horrible. Lived with mother for years. When we attempted to move on she sued us and tried to get partial custody of our kids. She then did a smear campaign and turned her side of family against us. Not even given a chance to speak, people just cut us off. Not seen any of them for 4yrs. Mother he treated other family members inc her sister the same , sister thinks she is a sociopath
Dad was always close to but he says himself he is autistic. Anyway he met a new partner about 16yr ago. She refused to meet me/ us. Waited in car outside our house when he visited. Came to our wedding then refused to see us again. Dad just a wet blanket and allowed this. She has never met our 3 DC. Dad married her this summer and wanted the 3 DC as flowergirls. Decided at last minute we were uninvited (?) he asked to visit last month. I told him very upset about wedding and not heard from him since
Childhood was emotionally and verbally abusive. I had eating disorders, brother was addicted to dope & sister made 3 suicide attempts by 18. DM threw me out at 16 before AS Levels and was sexually abused by taxi driver. Police told DM and victim support (where she worked). DM never spoke of it with me.
Generally this is copeable with. In laws are nice, have s good life. Some aunts are in contact who are nice.
Been a sudden change at work - moved to a new team. Horrible feelings of rejection and never being good enough are coming out.
Feel like I'm becoming w burden to DH and wondered on anyone else's advice.
I've seen psychotherapist for trauma rewind which worked for short term panic/ overwhelm but wondered longer term if people had any advice eg CBT or something similar
Feel like this could snowball and don't want to damage my relationships with DH and children. Thanks