Men are bonkers!

[coolkaz]

Hi. All..
so i know a guy who's around 10 years older than me, he has often given me compliments and i catch him checking me out etc. i thought there was chemistry between us so after taking over a week to build up the courage and battling anxiety i finally plucked up the courage to give him my business card and as i handed it to him i said "message me" with a glint in my eye but to my dismay he said "oh thanks luv i'll stick it on the board in work!" ..i can't help but laugh but ..i also can't believe it.. feel gutted to be honest!

Perhaps he is either married or in a relationship?

He's not married but i don't know about a relationship. He's been flirty with me for some time so really he shouldn't be leading me on if he is...

One person’s flirty is another person’s friendly. Or maybe he didn’t catch the “glint.” Or maybe he just gets a kick out of flirting and never intended it to go anywhere. Best to chalk it up to experience.

i finally plucked up the courage to give him my business card and as i handed it to him i said "message me"

If this is an accurate account as opposed to a summary, this is hardly the most elegant way to begin social contact is it?

Shoving a card in someone's paw with a demand to "message me" is massively blunt. What's wrong with just saying "fancy a coffee" at an appropriate moment.

I'm not surprised he reacted that way. You'd have been better off testing the water more gently and you'd have been better able to read signals.

It's a lesson in the fact that plenty of people flirt as an end in itself without any feelings or real attraction and those of us who only flirt when it's backed up by real feelings and attraction can often get hurt.

I do agree that probably wasn't the best way to let him know that i was interested but due to my shyness I thought giving him my card would make us both feel a bit less awkward if he wasn't interested or in a relationship.. I thought it was a way of giving him my details and then he has a way of contacting me if he wanted to get to know me better. I don't regret doing it just didn't get the response i was hoping for considering how much he was flirting and yes it was flirting.

Maybe he didn't want to be presumptuous by assuming you were doing anything other than networking with a potential business partner?

Can just imagine the post if he'd got it wrong:

"I was just being friendly with a potential business partner, smiling cheerily etc. then when I gave him my business card - you know, to do business(!!) - he thought I was asking him out!!! Honestly, men are so entitled and just think of sex!"

OP, I mean this kindly, but men are bonkers?

You flirted through the medium of business stationery!

Men are a bit odd. Some people, not just men, will actually flirt purely for their own ego boost. I've noticed as well that many people flirt with people they are not actually attracted to. I think it might be because they are not shy, self conscious or afraid of making a tit of themselves, so they just relax and have fun with the person. Problem is that some people take flirting more serious than others.