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Breaking up with daddy

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BlankSpace1 · 18/10/2018 13:48

So today my partner and I split, we've been together 5 years, engaged and have 2 little girls.
We've been a young couple, only 23,
And now I'm single and heartbroken.

It makes sense, he has ocd and I have depression and pd, he's in uni final year and I'm on first, we've been a great team and I thought we'd be together forever, but I've become more and more distant lately and more like a friend than a partner.. and my own struggles and problems cause me to be messy (I am lazy too tho I do try) and mentally unwell which stops him being able to function, if he was a friend I would've told him to walk away a long time ago for his own sake, but it hurts so much!
Now I'm here at the point of thinking oh no don't do this, but I know that's because of the pain of the whole thing.

He's staying at his mums now and the girls will see him as much as poss, our children come first no matter what and he's a great daddy, but I'm hurting a lot and all I can do is cry.
So that's it really

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missbehaving1000 · 18/10/2018 15:37

Aaaw I didn't want to read & run.

Thanksfor you, I know this must be a really hard time.

I've been through similar, and whilst it feels like the world has ended now, time honestly is the best healer. Do you have support of friends/family? Lean on them if you can to unload some of how you're feeling.
It's great things seem to be amicable at the moment with your ex. Hopefully it stays that way as that is what will be best for your girls.
Don't forget to have 'me' time when you can. It really does make a heap of difference.
Wish you all the best Smile

BlankSpace1 · 18/10/2018 17:09

Thank you,
It's just so hard! I wish I knew what to do, as soon as it comes to this I don't want to end and want to say we'll stay together, But it's. of that simple is it. I wish I knew the awnser! It's just so upsetting,
Getting a bit of support from my best friend but i don't have a close family and don't talk to them about my issues so it's rather lonely, we're meeting later to talk about things which I know will be hard.

Sorry for not making much sense, can't think straight let alone type 

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October2019 · 18/10/2018 17:21

OP, stay strong for the sake of your young children. Try to write your feelings down as it will help. Things can only get better.

Sending you lots of love and hugs!

BlankSpace1 · 18/10/2018 17:36

Thank you, I'm trying but my mental health is non existent and it's very difficult, feel like I'm in constant pain that won't stop or go away, so each day is a struggle without this

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