Ex and birthday

[GreenLantern53]

I know this is an ex and the general thing seems to be “why do you care, hes an ex” but I really want to try to understand why they do this! Ex is NC with me and our kids! he is a shit dad and has been for some time now. we havent had any contact and he hasnt seen our children in almost a year, though he briefly seen them for about 10 minutes a few months ago when he knocked on my door randomly out of the blue, but im not sure whether to count that. No contact since. It was my birthday the other day and he emails me to say happy birthday?! Why do that?? why contact me? why not leave me alone completely, no point messaging me when its my birthday, I wont be responding but I just dont get why he does stuff like that?

Why would a father stop contacting his children?

Some people act in ways that only make sense in their head. Everybody else just thinks they are weird, nuts, abusive, depressed... etc

Don’t give him any more of your thoughts and enjoy your birthday.

thanks, He has mental health issues but I dont even wanna give him that as an excuse as MH issues isnt a reason to not see your kids but that is his reason why he doesnt. Just wish he would disappear for good.

I'm NC with a member of my family who does exactly the same and emails me a simple "Happy Birthday" every year. I find it odd as I've made it quite clear that I want NC and never reply. I think they do it to a) remind me of their existence b) it's the bare minimum of greetings and c) they're only doing it to appear 'nice'.

Don't waste your time trying to figure it out, block his email address

I dont want to block him incase he turns up again.

its annoying charm23 especially when you want
to forget about that person and they pop up again!

Maybe that is your answer... to annoy you.

Possibly, I dont think he ever loved or cared about me to treat me the way he has, so maybe you are right.