Right before i start please bear in mind i am one of the paranoid jealous types, sometimes with good reason and sometimes without.
So... my partner left. We needed a break and he got a tenancy with his friend. We are now back together but living seperatley for the next six months atleast.
So my partner and lets call him 'dave' live in this flat. Dave has a new girlfriend (of about 3/4 weeks) lets call her sandra. Dave is my partners absolute best friend. I dont like dave 😂. Sandra practically lives there. Dave works all day, partner doesnt work die to mental health, sandra doesnt work due to being pregnant (dont ask). So basically partner and sandra spend more time together than dave and sandra do. Everytine i speak to partner he brings sandra up out if nowhere. Example dave was being innapropriate to sandra right infront of me so i had to tell dave he was being a dick and disrespectful to sandra and me i suppose! Example i told dave we are back together told him everything, then next day i told sandra about it. Sandra told me that she asked dave 'what do you think to them getting back together' to which dave replied 'i dont fucking know he talks to you more than he talks to me'. Example dave gets mardy because sandra sat next to partner at dinner table, dave didnt like sandra sitting next to his buddy. Example sandra cant sleep so leaves daves bed and goes to the living room and watches late night tv with partner. Partner keeps telling me how much of an issue dave has with sandra and partner being friends. I tell partner im not suprised im not exactly comfortable with how much you go on about her. Partner says shes just a good friend. Partners last 'good friend' was another friends girlfriend. Partner flirted with her, met her in secret and then tried to run off with her whilst i was carrying his baby, luckily this good friend only saw him as a good friend and told her partner and they told me (showed me screenshots) anre me and dave being silly in thinkibg this is abit much? Dave doesnt know about the friend before and already has a problem. I didnt have a problem until our one phone call a day today consisted of sandra said this, sandra told me that, i stuck up for sandra when dave was being a dick, sandra thinks this, sandra comes and sits with me at night and we chill all day when dave is at work. Sandras having a bad time because xyz. Am i right in thinking that sandra should maybe focus on her own relationship and problems in kife instead of turning to partner for support or am i being a mega jealous you know what? Also please note that partner would go balisitc if i were in his situation and sandra was a man!