Stuck. I can't move on

[Racmactac]

I split with ex 11 months ago but he has continued to harass me, slag me off to friends, call me names, cause arguments. Generally make life difficult and unbearable and to top of off he is buying the house next door to me.

I'm so angry and stuck. I don't know how to move on. I haven't reacted to anything apart from write solicitors letters. I know I can go to the police. I don't need advice on that stuff.

What I do need help on is actually moving on, how do I stop replaying this crap in my head, how do I stop having imaginary conversations, how do I forgive myself for being stupid and getting in this relationship and ignoring the red flags.

I have friends. I run. I work full time. But any time I am not doing those things it's constantly in my head. Help

Can you not move?

Not sure how quick my house would sell. I would have to go into rented accommodation because I wouldn't get a mortgage at the moment due to change in employment status but I have certainly thought about it

Is he still harassing you? If he is you can to go to the police and they may be able to put an order in place where he has to stay a certain distance away from you. That would put the kibosh on him moving in next door. Woman's Aid would be able to advise you on what order to ask for.