Hi everyone,
I would like your opinion on something. I was going out with a guy and we were going to get married and everything but then it finished for reasons I won’t go into. Then he told me that for the last 15 years or so he had a woman with who he had a deep soul connection and every know and then they met up for sex and so on. And that she was the only woman he had ever truly loved and it was mutual. When he had had relationships, this was mutually put on hold and she never interfered with his relationships and he never did with hers. I think this is fundamentally dishonest. Not only that but it gave the lie to everything including professions of love from him to me. What do you think?
Looking back of course it now appears I had a continual rival and his heart was never in it. And of course I was fighting against something unseen. And therefore all those things which never made sense, sort of do now. He was also bisexual. I’m not a jealous person but I hate dishonesty, especially as he accused me of being with other guys which is something I have never and could not actually do. I’m pissed off to be honest because although it is over, there was I being accused of this when all the time it was him with the secret lover. He tried to explain it by just saying it was a soul connection and that they never interfered in each others relationships. But I can’t see it like that. I told him it was dishonest and he said it was all in my head.
He said yes to getting married then when the relationship was over said he had told me at the beginning he had never wanted a partner anyway and that he had told me that (of course he hadn’t). If that were the case why would he say yes to getting married?