Anyone else still in pain over a divorce they never wanted?

[peggyonabike]

Long story short... husband of 26 years decided that whilst abroad, he'd "pay" for a young Asian lady for a few nights. Surprise, surprise, this lady got pregnant and because of her religion she couldn't have the pregnancy terminated. Her dream : "to live in a place like Downton Abbey and shop at Harrods" (she'd never been to the UK).

Two years on, he's dumped the woman and the baby and left our own kids with no dad around.

I needless to say divorced him immediately but still mourn the fact that for half our lives, we were the best of friends, had a great life but a sex life that needed more work.

I will NEVER get back with him, but interested to know if there are other stories out there from people who never saw a divorce coming?

My ExW cheated but I'd never have her back nor miss her one bit. I now have a calm, stress-free, tidy house and don't have to put up with a lazy, moody, messy partner anymore. Sometimes there is an upside. At the time I was devastated but time apart (and some good friends) helped me gain perspective on what my relationship was really like and help me decide that actually I didn't want to save it. Look for the positives and don't focus on the past.