We had a baby 3 months ago and in the process of buying a house.
So a lot going on and my partner has decided to work 6 days a week now whilst I look after the baby. He's self employed but wants to save up more now before we move house which I understand but we already have and are doing really well and are by no means in a bad situation with money and place to stay so this is for him to feel completely reassured I think.
The work load is getting to him and the cracks are showing. He started a fight with his brother and smashed up living room when baby was present and has been drinking smoking more going out for reckless drives,started getting loads of tattoos and last night was vommiting in middle of night because he took a box of Nuorfen to go to sleep.
This freaked me out so I stayed up all night to make sure he was okay. He acts like this is completely normal and somehow manages to put it on me or someone else.
I am terrified as this makes no sense and I'm not sure how to help. I don't want to add more stress but I have said I will not allow my baby to be around his out bursts so stayed away one night when it was really bad but this didn't help when I got back.
I try to talk to him but he struggles being open. I cook clean look after baby which as a new mum I'm struggling with at times. I Had a tramatic birth and only now feel I'm doing well.
I wish he could take more time with the baby and enjoy being a new family and stop harming himself.
can anyone give any insight or suggestions
I really love him but can't carry on like this now we have a baby.
Sorry for any bad grammar x