Anyone else want to swap tinder stories? It's a brave new world..

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I'm recently separated from my husband, certainly not ready for any kind of emotional commitment to anyone but got myself on tinder as a form of distraction.

I think basically what I'm after is a respectful fling with some fun dates and emotional honesty. If that's remotely possible. But putting the words 'casual' and 'fun' in my profile led to some rather explicit opening messages. Ugh. Apparently the words foreplay and consent were not part of their vocabulary.

I've also met a few crazies on there (in between the nice guys who, unfortunately, I haven't had any chemistry with yet).

So, just wondering if anyone else wants to swap tinder stories with me and what your experiences have been so far?

I was with my husband for 14 years(!) so it feels pretty crazy out there. And exciting.

Not myself but my friend has had a few good ones.

I dropped her off at a pub/restaurant to meet someone and waited in the car park 5 mins as you do just in case. Good job I did because he was already pissed when she got there (I dropped her at 3pm). When I say he was pissed he was falling all over the place and when she was walking out he was stumbling behind her saying please don't go I love you already.

Second one she met with someone in our town and after some speculation as to where she knew him from as he looked familiar they found out that he was the guy her sister had been sleeping with 10 years before and gave her an STI. So that wasn't great either.

There are a few but she has met someone now (Not on tinder) and they're really happy. You have to kiss some frogs before you find a prince so my nan would say

I will say though please be careful with dating sites. Meet somewhere public and don't go to his house or invite him to yours because there are some awful people on them. Keep safe

If you want a tinder success story I have one! Had been married then ltr. Dumped from high height. Went on Tinder so people could tell me I was pretty, basically, I needed the self esteem boost. Away overnight on a work trip and I'd been chatting to a guy for a month. Work trip was in his city. We met up for a night out. Got very drunk. Had an ace night. He came back to my hotel. We've been together ever since, four years in two weeks and married a year and a half 😊 so yep, I rate Tinder. 😁

I really like Tinder but only date women so I imagine it's a whole different world! The worst date I've had was just when it was gatecrashed by a guy who didn't realise we were on a date and stuck to us like a limpet for an hour (wasn't really feeling chemistry with my date so I just went with it, haha). No one's ever been creepy, inappropriate etc. Have met some really great people, had short term fun and had a LT rel with someone I met through it. Currently dating someone I met on the app and taking a break from swiping as don't have time, headspace or the inclination to properly date multiple people at once.
Have at times in the past set it to both sexes and while I've never gone on a date with a man off Tinder, messagingwise it's fine, my personal overriding impression of straight Tinder is of very long earnest walls of text from Parisian students all about themselves and their arthouse cinema prefs.
Hope you find some good contenders soon & have fun with it OP!

I met a man on tinder 51 days ago. First date 49 days ago. He's the most kind considerate man I've met in a long time. I'm completely bowled over by him. Madly in love (I'm 55 he's nearly 60) and I can't imagine life without him now. We practically live at each other's houses.

My friend went on a Tinder date with a guy in the early evening. He'd just been on holiday and brought my mate back a wanky little trinket thing in a yellow bag.

They had a nice time but just before 8pm he seemed to wrap the date up quite quickly. He was a bit hesitant about confirming a second date (not uninterested but also not overly interested) so she just left it.

She called a mate who lived in town and popped to her's for a quick drink. On her way home later that night, she walked past the same restaurant where they'd had their date and her date was sitting in the window of the restaurant with another woman who had a little yellow gift bag on her side of the table.

To be fair that guy is doing it right ..his own private tinder speed dating event 😁

Hannah1992 that's hilarious. And sad. What a nice friend you are.

Velour that's very interesting. I did set it to women at one point as I've always been a bit bicurious and I thought, why not? I swiped about a dozen women but NONE of them matched. And then I just gave up. I wondered if it was the right site for it.

The long term stories are quite sweet as well. But I'm pretty certain that I couldn't commit to anyone right now - it would just be a rebound thing and that wouldn't be fair.

So far I've had sexual chemistry with two guys from Tinder. The first I had some amazing sexting with (which I'd never done before and I was seriously missing out) and then he stood me up for our date, go figure.

The second guy was lovely, sensitive, very attractive. And happened to be an activist right wing nationalist... My views are about the polar opposite so that was a NO.

Maybe I should try serial speed dating...

You really do require a thick skin for this.

I'm falling in love with a lovely man off Tinder. Only 2 months in but he is very open and honest. Not all are :). My first Tinder fling was a nice guy but we both should have been more up front. He wanted a fling, I wanted more. It was a learning experience to be very clear, though I would not use the terms casual or fling as you'll attract idiots. I also had a nice 5 mobth relationship with another Tinder man, we just weren't right for each other. There are definitely good people out there

My sister is engaged and just about to buy a house with a lovely guy she met on tinder (was the first person she actually talked too), theyve been together about 3 years. He is probably the nicest boyfriend she ever had!

I had several dates on tinder, all really nice guys, i don't regret meeting any of them.

I had several guys that turned out to be odd balls (one policeman who announced mid normal conversation he liked to piss himself, fully clothed. His kink), needless to say i didn't meet him. I think the biggest advice I would give is: don't over text and over invest before meeting, don't chat for too long, but long enough to work out if they are a freak, and stick to boundaries.

The first guy I really spoke to on Tinder I could have fallen for just on messaging alone, but when I met him he was so camp I couldn't see past it. Anyway, we remained friends (nearly a year now), and now I probably could imagine getting into bed with him, but alas he met another girl of tinder who he is head of heels in love with. I wish I had given him more of a chance, but I was so freaked by how camp he was (he actually isn't that camp, I think he was so nervous it came acorss that way....don't judge, I like a manly man).

Anyway, i digress, just have fun, stick to your boundaries, be safe and be honest with people. And expect to be messaged by weirdos.

Met my lovely oh on tinder 2.5 years ago. After 25 years married. Despite living close to each other we never would have met totally different set of friends etc. But tinder did it for us. Just home from a wonderful week away in the sun with him.

Aw, some lovely stories on here. I know it's not all bad, but one does require a sense of humour.
pudding21 that is quite, something about the policeman's fetish. Yeesh.
One guy I only ever texted on tinder said the idea of being my dog appealed to him. Oh, and could I sleep with other men and tell him about it....? To each their own, but it just didn't appeal to me.

Sallygoround I completely understand about being open and honest but as you say, as a woman it's a bit more tricky to be up front that I am just looking for a fling. It also needs to be respectful, and have some build up, flirtation, etc.

The guy I'm messaging now seems very nice and has emphasised wanting someone "genuine" but not necessarily long term. I'm not sure how to interpret that. Maybe I should just ask.

Been chatting to a really nice man. Thought everything was going swimmingly. We've exchanged phone numbers. Have mutual likes. Etc etc. Then he's just cooled off. I'm sort of... What do I do now. I'm in limbo.

Don't worry too much about making it clear in your profile what you want. You can do that once you've been on a date and met a kind man.

Yesssss our of a 13year late in April and I am loving Tinder... having a lot of
Fun. Definitely don’t want a relationship and being really honest about that.
Have met three lovely guys that I am currently seeing 😏😬😂

*out of a 13 year ltr

I wouldn’t worry about your profile. I don’t think any guys read them. Just go for it

Left my husband last year, divorced this year. Signed up to tinder late July, met one guy in August and have been together since. Knocked me for six actually and showed me everything that was wrong with my previous 7/8 year relationship. He looks after me and we have an amazing time. I frequently beat him on Mario Kart. For some reason that’s my biggest achievement so far 😂😂