Whats the most emotionally abusive thing someone has said or done?

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I had a horrible relationship that ended a few months back. Mumsnet helped me identify what emotional abuse is and made me realise how subtle it can be.

I think people don’t always know what is abuse until it is pointed out.

My ex did many things but oh the silent treatment...I planned a mini break for us and he didn’t speak to me for 30 hours of it after I said (politely!) please don’t tell what to wear (third time of him telling me to change my top and me refusing)...

Telling me my 14 year old (literally 14 years and one week old, so just over 13) virgin self, who had not even so much have held a boys hand was having an affair with the much older man that had actually groomed me. Stereotypical that I babysit for his child and he groomed me, but no according to H I was having an affair because it happened more than once, so my fault.

After him instigating anal sex, which I went along with (yes stupid I know) to please him, because for some reason I really wanted to please him, he told me how dirty I was and how I should know he was not like that and I was just filthy.

When he told me on my birthday (significant because it's my prevailing thought every birthday) that I was too fat and ugly to have sex with....... the next night he wanted sex and I was so happy to do it (I was clearly very vulnerable and desperate back then).

Oh god, loads. I’ve managed to try and forget most of the things my parents said to me but a few stick in my mind.
I had a squint in my eyes as a child and I was very self conscious of it. My mother would regularly call me a ‘cock eyed bitch’, I was made to feel like a freak that wasn’t worth their love because of it.
May not sound much but it bloody hurt at the time