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What should I make of this behaviour?

10 replies

BeauxReves · 14/10/2018 21:49

My boyfriend got angry about something this morning and started shouting at me, which isn’t unusual. But this time he threw his phone at me. Twice. First time it landed next to me on the sofa. Second time I saw it coming and kind of curled up a bit and covered my head and it bounced up off the sofa and hit me. He says that it’s ok as he deliberately threw it so it didn’t hit me (first at least) and if he had wanted to it would have made contact wherever he wanted it to...

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WildIrishRose1 · 14/10/2018 21:50

It's clearly NOT ok.

dirtybadger · 14/10/2018 21:52

No. It wouldn't be okay if he had thrown a slipper. He either meant to hurt you or intimidate you. Wanting to physicality intimidate your DP isn't normal and is abusive.

SparklyMagpie · 14/10/2018 21:52

Who on earth would think that was ever acceptable?!

Cambionome · 14/10/2018 21:56

Get away from him before he really hurts yo. This is not going to end well.

funnylittlefloozie · 14/10/2018 21:57

Walk away. This is not acceptable behaviour from someone who is meant to care for you. He intimidated you, and has issued a veiled threat that it will happen again. Make your plans and leave before he hurts you.

MsPavlichenko · 14/10/2018 21:58

It is abuse. Violent abuse. As is what he said afterwards. Get rid. Call WA, or look online for support. It will escalate. You're not pregnant are you?

FuckItPassMeTheWine · 14/10/2018 21:59

He is abusive , i notice you put that it isn’t unusual for him to shout st you, this is not how you treat a partner. Leave him now. His behaviour is escalating and should be setting off alarm bells 🚨

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BeauxReves · 14/10/2018 21:59

Not pregnant but have a young baby

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Ohyesiam · 14/10/2018 22:04

Op, this will escalate. I’m so sorry, you need to get you and your child out ASAP. Do you have anywhere you can go?

MsPavlichenko · 14/10/2018 22:11

Sadly, I'm not surprised. Pregnancy/ arrival of children is very often when abuse escalates. WA can help, and if you are able to talk to others in RL do so. But be careful. If he thinks you are planning to escape he might escalate quickly.

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