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Help me figure out if the shy bloke likes me or not?

34 replies

RubyStilleto · 14/10/2018 16:38

Met a guy through mutual friends, he kept looking over until I gave him a big smile & he came over. Next day he adds me to Facebook (lol, I know) and we get chatting. I tell him I'm going to an event I think would interest him & ask if he wants to come - he says he'd love to and so we go together. Have a great time, spend hours talking and he insists on paying for everything. He did mention he is very shy but trying to overcome this a day at a time.

We talk every day until he invites me to another event. I notice he's started given me this starry eyed look whenever we chat and he always looks at me when others are talking in the group. Again he stays close to me all night and my mind is blown when he tells me 4 hours has passed already. I have to say he gives me the kind of
'look' only long terms bf have given me in the past but I don't want to read too much into it.

Now he's invited me to an event in a week's time but now I have no idea if we have become friends or if there's romantic potential. He hasn't tried to kiss me. I looped my arm through his as we walked around & he seemed happy about it. He leaned in close and kept his arm pressed against mine for about 5 mins on our last date. But he hasn't said he's into me although he pays me compliments.

I'd like to hold his hand or make a move to kiss him but I don't want to completely misread the signs and lose a friend. Help me figure out what to do?

OP posts:
glitterystuff · 16/10/2018 23:41

*it really does sound like he fancies you (just to clarify)

Go for it.

compostcorner · 17/10/2018 12:02

back in the days when i was really shy i just wanted the girl to take control, i used to say things like "would you like to go shopping with me", but it was just an excuse to see her. shyness for some of us is more like an illness, or a phobia, and we need all the help we can get, i also know that shyness can be a turn off for a lot of people, a usual response i got from my lonely heart and internet dating days was....your a lovely sweet person, but i cant see myself sleeping with you, it hurts, but you get on with life.

RubyStilleto · 21/10/2018 23:05

Verdict: Yes he fancies me!! Blush Less than an hour into the date he spontaneously gave me a long hug, so as he pulled away I kissed him (and he kissed back!). By the end of the night we were holding hands and snogging like teenagers...so I guess that is my question answered LOL. I felt I did have to make that first move, but once I did he started initiating intimate moments with me.

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Penguinsetpandas · 22/10/2018 00:08

Glad its going well.

scrolling123 · 22/10/2018 00:15

I went on a date with a very shy guy 4 years ago, went to kiss him at the end of the date and he turned his head away. I pursued him and he me, and more dates ensued. I'm sat next to him now on our couch and our little baby is asleep upstairs. Sometimes the shy ones just need more time and on my experience are TOTALLY worth it. Xx

RubyStilleto · 24/10/2018 23:43

That's what I call a success story scrolling123! I think my guy is probably inexperienced but I don't know what to extent.

We're going on another date planned by him again in a few days. :) Yes like you say, he is shy but has a lot of hidden layers!!

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TiredPony · 24/10/2018 23:53

Oooh OP I posted a similar thread a few weeks back where I asked my crush out. He's not so much shy as an introvert. We're now "official". Glad to hear things have gone the same way for you!

BonnieF · 24/10/2018 23:57

If he really likes you, and he has admitted that he’s shy, he will be absolutely desperate not to blow it by saying or doing the wrong thing and upsetting or offending you.

Gently take the lead, without pouncing on him. Hold his hand. Give him a hug. Cook for him. Then, after a couple of glasses of wine go for a kiss.

Good luck!!

GalateaDunkel · 25/10/2018 13:06

I was relatively shy as a younger man, my early dating and sex life was based around hanging about with girls who I strongly beleived liked me. Fortunately for me when situations like this developed I usually managed to pluck up the courage to express how I felt. It can be done via a simple message.

He definitely is into you and will know that you probably don't hold hands with platonic friends.

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