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Friend'' has annoyed me

42 replies

Avalaura · 14/10/2018 13:47

My "friend" of a few years started to visit me and my son as his son is around the same age so they could play and we could chat.
He was only round twice but he was a bit creepy. He kept getting near my face, touching me, laying his head on my knee and wanting to look up my exs. Also, saying things like oh look i saw you staring at me. I trusted him and I wasn't bothered as I felt he is just a friend nothing more. He also has a gf who doesn't care about him. So I just felt sorry for him. But then I noticed he kept posting things about loving 2 people at once and not letting anything get in the way of it.
Then one day I was out with family and he kept messaging me. I ignored him. Then on the night he messaged me again saying we need to talk. I asked is it about me not messaging you cause I was with family. And he no how we feel about each other. With a laughing face.
Then put that hes messing.
I said i hope your messing 😐
Then he replied talk later hun.
Since then I had ignored him didn't open his messages cause I'm creeped out that he'd even think i fall for that or that i even like him like that. Now he keeps putting things on his profile like : If you are reading this then you should message me.
I just can't talk him anymore i am so creeped out 😕

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GallusKat · 14/10/2018 13:49

Sorry, I'm not following you here. What exactly are you asking and or saying?

zzzzz · 14/10/2018 13:49

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dirtybadger · 14/10/2018 13:50

Block him and stop replying to all messages. If he continues to find ways to contact you then consider reporting him for harassment (hopefully he will quickly get the message and stop although maybe not as he hasn't taken the hint yet)

Original poster
Avalaura · 14/10/2018 13:52

I haven't replied to any messages.
And I won't he's really creeped me out. I tried to give myself time to get over how hes behaved but I don't feel like it's changed my feelings

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Original poster
Avalaura · 14/10/2018 13:54

It feels lkke he's just playing with my mind and my emotions

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NorthEndGal · 14/10/2018 13:55

Block the fuck out of him

DoYouLikeBasghetti · 14/10/2018 14:01

Ew! He's not a friend! I had one like this and it did not end well.

Original poster
Avalaura · 14/10/2018 14:09

I've blocked him. Just seen him put a status about been knocked down and been able to get back up again ill be here for you. And at the top he put "you know what to do"

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FishesThatFly · 14/10/2018 14:14

Sounds about 12yrs old, not an adult

Oddcat · 14/10/2018 14:18

Even if he were single and even if you liked him in a romantic way , he’s acting like a teenager , all stupid (not so) cryptic fb messages Hmm . It’s not the way an adult conducts themselves is it ?

Lynne1Cat · 14/10/2018 14:27

This sounds like a couple of teenagers. Just tell him you're not interested/block him/don't invite him round.

HellenaHandbasket · 14/10/2018 14:31

Why the drama? Just tell him you're not interested surely?

Mxyzptlk · 14/10/2018 14:31

I've blocked him. Good news!
Don't be tempted to answer him in any way as that would only encourage him.

Graphista · 14/10/2018 14:31

The uncaring gf is presumably just what he's claimed?

He's a sleazy creep who doesn't genuinely care for either you or his gf (mother of his child too?) bin him off and tell him why! Ugh gross behaviour.

lovetherisingsun · 14/10/2018 14:49

Lordy, how old is this boy, about 12? His poor girlfriend.

Original poster
Avalaura · 14/10/2018 15:10

Yes his gf is the mother of his child. He is supposed to be 31 but yes, acts more like 12.
Childish.

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AndTheBandPlayedOn · 14/10/2018 15:48

I agree, block, ghost, vanish.
So he was using his son to try it on with you.....nope. He has put on a whole clinic of cringe worthy behavior.

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Avalaura · 15/10/2018 14:20

I messaged in on his site saying please could you remove the picture of my child off as its on public. He did but then he put a status saying that I am a dickhead for just deciding not to be friend anymore and that he was there for me. He was not there for me and he should know full well why I was upset. I feel like I should tell him? Don't know?

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babygoose48 · 15/10/2018 14:34

Tell him the truth OP.

You are right he sounds like a savage creep and I’m not surprised you feel like that! People like that need to be put in their place and see that their behaviour is inappropriate.

subspace · 15/10/2018 14:40

Don't talk to or about him (eg on your face book) any more.

Original poster
Avalaura · 15/10/2018 14:42

I didn't talk to about him on mine he did talk about me on his. I got told by someone that he did because he liked one of my friends posts even though they are not friends on it. So she looked on his profile and saw it

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subspace · 15/10/2018 14:47

Block him. Don't try to tech him he is in the wrong, he won't get it and you'll never get the hours of your life back. Delete, block, move on, tell your friends you're not interested if they try to report to you what he's been saying again.

GraceMarks · 15/10/2018 14:52

There's no point trying to tell him the reasons why, as he'll never be able to see it from anyone's point of view other than his own. Just ignore everything he does, don't give any thought to what he's saying about you on SM, and if any of your other friends try to tell you, just inform them you're not interested. He can hardly come out and be more explicit about what he's going on about if he has a girlfriend and baby that he's supposed to be with.

Original poster
Avalaura · 15/10/2018 19:08

Oh my god. I didn't do anything but I received a message off his gf saying he's just flirty and if she didn't trust him she wouldn't let him to come to visit us and that I need to grow up. Hes also putting more and more status's about me being a horrible bit ch.
Just can't get away from it all.
I have blocked her now to.

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prettygreywalls · 15/10/2018 19:25

Maybe he used her account to message you ?