"Spark" and relationships

[Casperandme]

Interested in views. If one partner doesn't feel the spark anymore (or never really has in that lusty kind of way) do you think there's anything that can be done about that? Is there anything you think that the non-sparked partner can do to make the other person want them more or is it dead in the ditch?

I think it depends how long you've been together. 6 months, probably not worth trying. 15 years, 2 small kids, worth working at.

Personally I find having sex makes me want it more, and that's advice I've read by relationship counsellors, so instigating something even when you don't quite feel like it can definitely be worth it.

Are you the one who's lost their spark, or the other person?

I couldn’t imagine even starting a relationship without a spark what’s the point?

I’d be gutted if DP said he never felt any spark.

Surely you can get the "spark" from your other partners?

Unless you're supposedly monogamous

As long as the spark has definitely been there then I think that there are things that can be done to get it back. But you say that it has never really been there, I would say in that situation then no.

I’ve just been thinking about it slot as been on both sides and find it perplexing.

On one hand losing the spark I feel, but suspecting I could have worked harder at it.

Then the flip side - being put in the friend zone

You're not making sense ? Why would the "non sparked " person have to do anything to make the other person want them more ?? If that is the situation then you have two people who have no interest in each other surely ?

Sorry - I’m talking about two separate situations I’ve been in!

If there's no spark then there's no spark.