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angry for the last time

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Loveagoodbargain21 · 13/10/2018 01:03

Is anyone awake? We had a fight and my husband kicked me. Really hard in the leg. I know I need to leave him but I’m scared . What do I do ?

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redastherose · 13/10/2018 01:10

Where are you now and where is he?

redastherose · 13/10/2018 01:12

Is he likely to get violent with you again tonight or are you somewhere safe now?

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Loveagoodbargain21 · 13/10/2018 01:24

He’s in the shed. I’m in bedroom upstairs. He’s had a few to drink but we’ve been arguing for a while

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Loveagoodbargain21 · 13/10/2018 01:25

Arguing on and off for a few months. He’s depressed but I don’t know what to do now - he’s never hit me before

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Loveagoodbargain21 · 13/10/2018 01:26

He’s probably asleep but I’m not going to check

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Chelonia · 13/10/2018 01:28

Is there someone you can go to now? Grab your purse and get a cab and go?

SleepWarrior · 13/10/2018 01:30

I'm so sorry, that sounds horrible.

Was it a deliberate 'trying to hurt you' sort of kick (where he might come back for more), or a general crashing about in anger and you ended up as collateral damage sort of kick? Obviously you don't want to be married to either scenario, but the first sounds more dangerous and I'd say leave now and go to a hotel if that's the case.

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Loveagoodbargain21 · 13/10/2018 01:39

It was Deliberate. Been married 15 years. He says he hates me. This has been coming for ages now. He’s threatened divorce several times and never done anything about it. My mind is racing with a hundred things about what to do next

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ScottyDog7 · 13/10/2018 01:48

If he is no longer a threat then call the none emergency police. Especially if you have children.
If he is still a threat call 999.

I hope you're okay.

Monty27 · 13/10/2018 01:52

Get rid

Aquamarine1029 · 13/10/2018 03:48

Call the police, kick him out, get a solicitor and divorce the useless cunt.

Ribbon86 · 13/10/2018 03:58

Loveagoodbargain21 I’m so sorry to hear what has happened to you some people are so cruel , keep yourself safe and be strong . Sending big hugs

awesmum · 13/10/2018 04:37

Make sure you remember it was deliberate, sounds silly but you will twist this in your mind especially if he starts manipulating you. Think if he gets away with this now, what will be next?
Get your thoughts in order, get a plan together, get some real life support and leave. You can do this. Thanks

justilou1 · 13/10/2018 04:47

Call the police. It’s assault. If you’re afraid of him and you want rid of him, it might be the way forward.

Butterfly44 · 13/10/2018 05:35

There is no excuse and you can't carry on like this. He'll probably be apologetic tomorrow but how long till the next time.
It's no relationship...and he's certainly not treating you with any care and respect. Violence is a whole new level to arguing and is unacceptable - drinking/depression is no excuse. This is your absolute cue to end things and start the divorce he's been threatening.
Do you have kids? It's not healthy arguing and them seeing their dad like this...they will absorb it. Please stay safe and tell family/friends so you get support to leave x

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