Hypothetical affair - would you?

[supercatspeed]

I am curious to know, and this is purely hypothetical, if you could have an affair and your partner/the other person's partner would definitely never find out, would you?

No. I would never betray him. I would know, even if no-one found out.

Fantasy is always better than the reality so no.

I'm single, but I'd like to think not. I've no right to make someone else's life a lie.

No I couldn’t deal with the guilt at at. And I wouldn’t want to anyway even though things aren’t perfect. Still no.

No - because actually the person it hurts most is yourself.

Yeah, things aren't exactly "fresh" at home

Sometimes I'd answer this as yes I'd be tempted but I still wouldn't do it

No. I respect myself

No. I don't want to be that person. My dad is a serial cheater and my brother is on his second divorce for cheating. I refuse to be them.

Possibly, if there was a 100% guarantee that nobody else would get hurt.

No...and if you would surely that means there's no love there?

Nope

I am. I don't think anybody who hasn't had an affair realises that along with the high's, the low's are lower than low.

wasfattnowthin

Oh yes for sure, dealing with no time, misinterpreted conversations, fitting it in around two lives.

The wtf are we doing? And yet needing another person.

Nope. A long time ago I cheated on my then boyfriend. He never found out but it made me feel shit about myself for years - I was a coward and I had exploited the trust of a good person. I felt like I had no personal integrity - how could I ever make a promise or give someone my word? It took me a long time to rebuild my idea of myself as a reasonably decent person.

Now I'm in a relationship that allows for other partners, so I'd have no need to keep it a secret from my boyfriend. Weirdly, both of us hardly ever do have so much as a snog with anyone else.

Yes, but only if it was with Kit Harrington.

I couldn’t be that person as the guilt would eat me up, and however small the risk I couldn’t take it as I know it’d devastate my DH.

I’m one of those people in life who disadvantages myself to do the right thing and am continuously disappointed by the selfishness of others.

Never, because I’m not a cunt.