What if you still love your ExH?

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Do you just force yourself to move on? Distraction? Try to reconciliation?

What do you do?

Depends why you split up. Just because you loved him doesn’t mean it would work or that he feels the same.

I think if you loved someone enough to marry them there’s always going to be something there. But there was also a reason he became your ex! That won’t have changed either whatever it is. Look forward not back (it’s hard but can be done)

Lots of pressures from the outside. My mother told him lies about me (I’m NC with her now). He didn’t believe her but the constant meddling put a strain on our relationship. I had a miscarriage, he had cancer, his dad died in a car accident and his brother blamed ex for it. Court case etc. It just all fell apart, we argued and lost us. I can’t imagine a good future without him.

We are still in contact every now and again. Neither haves moved on. I hate to admit but I still have hope.

Well then contact him and say so, life is short. If he says no, or you try and it doesn’t work, you will then be able to move on.

In your situation I would write to him, OP.

You've had a terrible time of it. Such tragedy.

Are you actually divorced?

Yes we are divorced - he couldn’t take the arguing anymore and thought he wanted to just put it all behind him. We both pushed it through thinking it would be for the best.

Think it's worth another try

How long ago did this all happen OP?

I read your title and first post and came to comment but what I have to say will probably not be useful given your situation (although I was agreeing that I still love my ExH)

I would definitely speak to him. It is worth a try. And regardless of the outcome you will both have a resolution one way or the other.

for you, and your exH.

If you were right together all the other stuff simply wouldnt matter. Time to move on.

crop, this has crossed my mind too

It's always possible to get back together but I would advise relationship counselling beforehand and take it slowly. I hope it all works out well for you

Following. Sounds like you had a lot happen which put a lot of strain on your relationship which would've stressed even the strongest couple.
I hate to admit it but I still love my ex and held out hope we'd get back together - but I know he clearly doesn't want to (has new girlfriend) so just limit contact (only talk about DC and legal stuff) and try to focus on other stuff - though it's pretty hard.