Emotionally abusive relationships

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This long running thread has disappeared now, but had the most amazingly helpful links for women, one was the bill of rights in relationships, but I can't find it, and I have a DC alone with abusive father terrified and suffering PTSD, too scared to say no to him. I want to find this to send to her. Can anyone help please

If anyone has it can you post it here, by copying and pasting the actual text so I can do the same. Thanks

Here is the thread OP
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1696910-Dear-Ladies-and-Gents-Please-Read-Your-Bill-of-RIGHTS

Can I ask how old your DD is?

Aw ta. That's awesome. There was a.link to it before on the ea thread but it has evidently died. I think there are lots of versions of it, but that one gets the point across.

I don't want to out myself by being any more specific about the age.

...but not at home now

Cool. I was just going to say if she's under about 15 then it wouldn't be appropriate to send her.

I've just re-read your OP and realised it says she's alone with her abusive father and terrified. Is she asking you to "rescue" her?

she's under his manipulations. despite court orders to stop him from following her (we are in hiding), she would catch the bus to a different town, he followed her, she couldn't say no, she's too scared to. Buying her a phone despite her protestations (as she has one but has to keep the number secret so he can't track it), he was previously caught accessing her icloud, so received copies of all her emails/contact names and numbers/calendar appts). Apple were amazing and changed the security to me then i could untick things like receiving her emails. He used friends to stalk us. Now she is beyond my reach and he already has her address, and is making plans. I can't be there.
I wish i could say more, but dont want to out myself. I have sent outlines to her of how to keep safe, to make her owns plans with someone else to accompany her to and from places and so on.
no, she's not asking for rescuing, but she has been having panic attacks and whole nights of not sleeping, which she's always done around contact with him, and long since stopped refusing him anything because even in public he would follow her shouting whilst she would be crying and trying to get away, but no fucker interferes

But thats all good heh. Now that child old enough to be completely isolated too scared to stand up to him, and all alone.

All good now, time to feed her to the lions
Wey hey....

Sorry OP I've been away a couple of days and have only just seen your updates. This sounds horrifying.

Could you (or rather she) try Womens Aid for practical advice and support on getting free of him? Also google Paladin, they are a great resource for stalking.

Thank you for coming back here to post further.

My grind is with everyone washing their hands of these young and vulnerable adults. There is too little support around, as everyone knows, but there is such a huge problem of the 'old enough' children left open to someone who has perpetrated so much harm.

At the mercy of the manipulations and in denial, and I should know that one! I should be very tolerant of it as I know what it's like being in that FOG, but I can't do any more and cannot allow him to continue to abuse, and stalk, glean info through DC.

Been so much hand-wringing! So anxious.

I think there's a huge hole in the system and they are beyond reach.