Been married 12 years. This weekend I asked DH to move out after many years of us both being pretty miserable. No one has done anything utterly awful, no abuse - he has been miserable, voluntarily unemployed, depressed and taking the piss and I got tired of it.
I get the impression he thinks this is a temporary thing and once we've had a bit of space we can resume where we left off. He is being very accommodating about doing school pick ups and taking DD swimming after school and out for tea tonight. We are being quite pleasant and friendly to one another for a few minutes when he drops off DD. However it isn't temporary. I am feeling much much better, less tired, less stressed and more like the old me. I want a divorce and have started looking into it. I am not going to spell it out yet as I need to be away for work next week and I am concerned he'll refuse to look after DD if he realises we won't be playing happy families when I get back.
So when do I remove the ring?? Do I wait until I've told him and he has accepted it? What about taking it off when I am away and then telling him when I get back?? I want it off - feels like a promise I no longer feel I need to honor sort of sitting on my finger goading me!