Ive recently been dating a guy Ive known for years. Hes 40 and never had a girlfriend and I dont think hes ever made it past a month or so of dating anyone. When we first met from sitting together at work I was in a relationship. We developed feelings for each other in that time that we agreed to put aside due to my relationship and children, and we got made redundant so didnt see each other for 5 years until recently.
We've been dating a couple of months but only seeing each other every other week. We've been on some nights out together & some meals. I always knew we'd never have a relationship because it's not him, but I've started to feel uncomfortable and worried about everything lately so I have told him I dont think its a good idea to continue. I didnt understand what he wanted from me if he didnt want a relationship but wasnt interested in seeing anyone else. I feel the same way, as my marriage was 9 years long and I dont feel like I want to do a relationship again any time soon. So in that respect we are on the same page, but I am terrified if I continue on with him I will fall in love with him. I am acutely aware that hes not dated anyone for long and Im scared he will get bored of me easily and back away leaving me hurt. Am I doing the right thing? It hurts now anyway, but I guess not as bad as it could be.