Hi, Im a 41 year old newly separated mum of one (DS is 3). I separated from my husband in July after 9 years of marriage.It was a real roller coaster of a relationship. This is a whirlwind explanation but essentially he has an addictive personality , has issues with Alcohol and sex addiction. I supported him over the years in recovery but sadly he has never been able to complete a 12 -step program. Things just got so unbearable for me by the start of summer I asked for a trial separation which has turned into a (mutual) permanent decision. Essentially all my self worth and confidence is gone, having had these few months trying to pick myself up, I can see that really he was very emotionally abusive to me during our relationship. His acting out was always my fault.
I work at a local further education college as a teaching assistant. I love my job. Over the last few weeks there is a student at college who I, and I cant believe it has happened, have developed feelings for. He is 20!. I find it shocking that I feel this way. There is definitely a mutual connection. There has been flirtation, but nothing has been said or happened between us. I do not support any of his classes but see his about college outwith class times. I know myself I am getting into inappropriate territory now just flirting. I am however thinking that I will wait until he finishes his course then if we are both still single at that point ask him out for a drink. Is this totally stupid, is it just that I'm flattered a young man finds me attractive? Im not sure what to do. Advice please :)