Vasectomy questions

[ZebraMammy17]

Me and dp have been talking about him getting a vasectomy after we have a 2nd baby (haven't started ttc yet) my body does not agree with hormone contraceptive at all I've tried 4/5 different types.
At the minute we are just using condoms after having bad reaction to a different brand of the pill, fun fact we also discovered I'm allergic to a brand of condoms TMI sorry!

I'm sick of having to put my body through hell just to have sex! Headaches mood swings acne cramps all month on the iud bleeding for 6month it's to much!

Anyway we live in the UK so I'm wondering what criteria there is for dp to get one in a couple years we are both early 20s not married, DP friend said you have to be 30 and over and married to get one, this can't be right can it?

Vasectomies are 'rationed' by waiting list, so there may be a considerable wait for an NHS procedure. Yes, they tend to refer more readily for the over 30s but that doesn't mean you cannot get the procedure below that age. And they may well not refer at all until the baby is safely here.

If you can afford it, a private provider such as Marie Stopes means no waiting list.

I suspect that any gp will strongly advise your dp to go for some counselling before referring at such a young age. No offence but we have seen threads on her by women who aren't happy to continue relationships because their partners have had vasectomies previously and so can't give them children. The procedure is effectively irreversible and in your early 20s there is still an awful lot of future ahead.

My other half was 28 and he has one child he went to gp and said he wanted it done- he was asked if partner agreed he said yes and they booked him in for one on next available appointment. He had it done at doctors surgery.

My partner was 30, we're not married and I was pregnant with our second at the time. He got one booked within 3 months. Had to have an appointment with the doctor then a phone consultation with the clinic then was booked in.

My husband was late thirties and we wanted him to have the op after second (and last) child. GP said no in case we split and he went on to have another family. 😡
We waited a few months and saw another GP who booked him in.

It really depends on the GP. My DH had his just a few months after DS (my only child) was born. DS is his third child but we were surprised how readily it happened. It was then done at the GP surgery a couple of weeks later.

“Does your partner agree” - the question no woman would expect to be asked before a termination or sterilisation and rightly so. But “my body my choice” appears not to apply to men, at least as far as reproductive choice goes.

I was asked about three times, at various appointments until I finally asked why the hell it should matter (to shocked silence). That question gripped me tighter than the surgeon eventually did!

Sorry, rant over.

What if you change your mind? What if you break up? There was a recent thread here which shows that, no, they can't always be reversed. Have you explored all your options? IUDs, implants.