Should i replace his phone?

[mother2b]

Ok, i know this is quite trivial compared to some things i have read but here goes...

Last night me and DP had an arguement (which actually started because he was trying to tell me that the long side of a triangle is equal in length to the two short sides) but we ended up having an arguement and me finding some cigarettes in his desk, which i snapped(not all of them though)because i am pregnant and he told me he'd stop smoking, he went completely mad and started snapping things in reach, rulers cd's etc. and then picked up a bottle of my ckin2u (only a very small sample bottle(if it had been my big bottle i wouldnt have any problems resolving this)) and through it out of the first story window, because he did this i picked up my phone and it followed my perfume, i just want to say that i didnt do it maliciously, i simply done it because i thought 'well if hes throwing my stuff out of the window then ill throw his stuff out of the window'i didn't think about the worth of the phone neither did i think it would smash into as many pieces as it did (i nievely thought it would be sitting on the pavement outside in the same amout of pieces that left the window?!?!?!)

Basically what i want to know is should i go and by him a new phone today? i think i should but after i tried to apologise for throwing his phone out of the window he tried to drag me out of the house telling me to get out and causing a scene in front of his family(we dont live together but are moving in together at the beginning of next month)also, even though i think i should buy him a new phone part of me doesnt want to because i know that if it had been the other way around he prob wouldnt replace mine, i probably wouldnt have even got an apology?

If i didnt buy him a new phone i would just be cutting of my nose to spite my face because i am the only person who he text on it to meet up etc and it would mean that we would need to pre-arrange to meet etc and if i had a problem i couldnt get hold of him!

Sorry for it being so long

What would you mumsnetters do in my position?

you are pg and he physically dragged you out of the house? depending on how serious he was at this point i would think long and hard about moving in with him, the phone would be the least of my worries

rofl too....next time just look it up online and save yourselves the aggro....

yes, I think I would buy a new phone.

And you are about to bring a baby into this relationship?

The phone should be the least of your concerns right now.

(He was wrong about the triangle, by the way.)

And is couples counselling an option? It sounds like there's a lot going on here ...

why thank you, you won't see me on many TCC threads

He didnt hurt me when he was trying to get me out of the house, he basically was saying that he thinks it would be a good idea if i leave before things get worse and grabbed my hands and tried pulling me out the house with his brother in the hall and his mum at the bottom of the stairs, to be honest i didnt want to leave because i believe in sorting things out before we leave each other but he would much rather just be left alone to reflect.

Just want to say we dont argue argue a lot

just have a couple of arguements since been pregnant

We will be ok when we live together because if we do have a tiff (which we dont all the time like some couples, just i have quite a temper when we do have one) because i can go and think knowing that im not leaving it unsorted but can go and reflect before making things worse

We dont have a bad relationship! and our baby will be brought into in a very loving family

Yes buy him a new phone and appologise for breaking his old one.

You will feel better for it in the long run.

Silly arguments can get out of hand and i bet he is feeling a bit silly too.

Make the first move.

if you don't want people to make assumptions about your relationship or be concerned for your unborn child then it's best not to use phrases like "he tried to drag me out of the house telling me to get out" if that isn't excatly what happened.

ok, badly phrased, he tried to pull me out of the house, by my hands, sorry if i caused upset or offence, didnt think that it would be taken the wrong way, i said drag because i was sticking my heels in so in effect ihe was dragging me, didnt think until just now how that could be taken

sorry

no worries, as long as you are ok

my dp is the most gentlest man you could ever meet, but we had some blazing argumetents when I was pregnant! all was fine as soon as dd arrived, i just think for us it was a unplanned pg and caused immense emotion.

Listen, apologise, buy a new phone if you want and move on.

as long as he is not beating you up then all will be fine I am sure.

I'd buy him a new phone, but make it a really cheap one .

Was thinking of giving him my old phone which is battered to peices and doesnt hold its charge. am so annoyed with my self for doing it, its one expense that we could have done without, good thing though is that he was planning to downgrade to a phone which just texts and phones, i could do it for him

ok i just asked DP if he wanted the same phone as before and he said "i suppose it'll do" he was thinking of down grading just a few weeks back and now i think he wants a top of the range phone, which we cant afford because of moving into new house at start of next month, it would mean i would be dipping into my overdraft before not to long, should i buy him a brand new phone? i think he is playing on my guilt. and dont think he would do this for me (dont think he would even replace it(he has short arms and long pockets))

shouls i buy him state of the art phone, good second hand phone or cheap phone?

Get to Woolworths, saw phones in there for £9.99 , £12.99 and £14.99 the other day. Buy one and tell him it cost you £50, sounds like he wouldn't know the difference if he only texts and phones.

Looks like I'm the only person on this thread who would prefer to get a new boyfriend. But maybe I'm just too mean to pay for a phone.

Actually, you're right....he argues (when he's losing) about what is an equilateral triangle, he said he's given up smoking and hasn't, he breaks things, throws her perfume out the window and even tho she's pregnant, he tries to fuck her off out....in front of his family..what a twat.

Tell him to buy his own phone, and put him on a last warning!

erm can I just point out that the bottle he threw, and the phone you threw, could have hit someone walking outside the window....