really need to share this with someone (long and TMI)

[needtoshare]

I just feel I need to get this off my chest and get some advice from you all.

The short history is while I was on a break from my DH 5 years ago (I was pg at time)he met another girl whom he had casual sex with.

We got back together and I found out many months that they had slept together one more time after we got back together. As a result she got pg and had a DD.

We sorted through it and I went on to marry DH but things have not been good in our relationship and I have done alot of soul searching to find out why I feel the way I do towards him. (he cannot do enough to keep me happy)

Recently I remembered something and I cant stop thinking about it. Basically Shortly after we got back together, I went round his house. His parents were on holiday so we got frisky. I went down to do the obvious (TMI)and it smelt like a womans YKW. At the time I didn't have any reason not to trust him and didn't think anymore of it until now.

They confirmed the deed was while his parents were on holiday and so the probability of it was that I had it in my mouth.

I know it sounds silly and if I read this posting from someone else I would be in stiches but seriously I cant cope with it.

really? really?

I don't blame you. That's an awful thing to happen to someone. I don't have any advice as such, but just wanted to let you know someone was listening and I'm sure other mnetters will be along with better advice than me!

eeeeewwwwwwwwwwww!

tmi

ask him. it's going to eat you up otherwise... (sorry about the pun)

I did warn you.

Sorry if its funny but I feel so upset. dont know why after 5 years it's had this effect on me.

Dont really have anyone to share it with. Def not DH.

What can he say. Just dont be stupid probably

thats awful.

i think maybe you are focusing on that one thing though,as maybe you had doubts anout your dh back then but didnt know why.maybe you now wish you'd said something at the time?

i think you should either
a)reconsider whether you want to stay with him atall
or
b)shag somebody else then have your dh go down on you.that way you would be equal.

Sorry you are so aggrieved.
To be honest existence of his dd would upset me more than possible whiff of another woman's nether regions.

Has something happened recently to upset you? Because it does seem a bit odd to be suddenly worrying about something that might or might not have happened years ago.
And FWIW there are other reasons he might have smelt a bit.. different down there. For instance, men get thrush too. Or he could have (OK, look away anyone of a sensitive disposition) made himself a tuna sandwich and then had a bit of a fiddle with himself...

YKW?