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Dp just walked out. Don't know if he's coming back

29 replies

Mummaluelae · 10/10/2018 16:48

Me and dp had argument over his phone. He just said that his phone keeps ringing people in his pocket. So I suggested (and have done before) had he locked it? Has his phone got gesture unlock (as mine does and you have to disable it)
He shouted saying ofourse he's tried everything and its still calling people. So I merely said "well it must be something because phones can't just call people"
He threw his phone at wall. Smashed. Completely unusable. So i said he can use my phone as I am sahm and have house phone if any emergency ect. He said "no that's what you want me to feel sorry for you with no phone. I can use your old one" I agreed he got my old phone, charged for 5 mins, took charger and walked out slamming the door behind him. Don't know what to do

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WasFatNowThin · 10/10/2018 16:51

I'm sure he'll be back before long with his tail between his legs!

Grumblepants · 10/10/2018 16:52

Sounds like he's looking for an argument. Are things ok between you normally? Is he usually quick to anger!

Trinity66 · 10/10/2018 16:57

that all sounds very extreme

MsMightyTitanAndHerTroubadours · 10/10/2018 16:59

is this out of the ordinary behaviour for him??

who is his phone calling? Seems very weird to get het up about it tbh, my phone before last was often pocket dialling people, I'd had it almost two years before I found out how to screen lock it. :o

something odd going on here I think for him to get so over exercised about this.

Cawfee · 10/10/2018 17:12

Looking for an argument. Red Flag

beeefcake · 10/10/2018 17:12

I think it's a stupid argument that escalated for no reason, it happens. I'm sure he will be back soon enough.

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Mummaluelae · 10/10/2018 19:31

I was stressing over nothing. He called to apologise, now back home

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GreenMeerkat · 10/10/2018 19:33

Sorry but I don't think that's stressing over nothing.

That's seriously extreme behaviour. Is there anything else that stressing him out? Work?

Frankswife87 · 10/10/2018 20:17

He sounds like a spoilt brat throwing a tantrum. I certainly wouldn't be offering him the use of an old phone, he decided to behave like a dick and smash his phone.

heather1 · 10/10/2018 20:20

Has he been or Is he under a lot of stress/unhappy? This is how my DH can be if he’s not coping. Hope it’s resolved quickly OP

adaline · 10/10/2018 20:47

Why did he get so angry? Would be a red flag for me OP, sorry.

I'd be wondering who he'd been calling and why he felt the need to destroy the evidence!

busybarbara · 10/10/2018 20:50

He sounds totally unhinged. He wouldn't be coming back in to my house.

twilightsaga · 10/10/2018 20:59

He smashed a phone and you responded by offering yours? He sounds like an idiot who has anger problems

AnonaMouse1 · 10/10/2018 21:09

Why offer yours?

Sounds like you are a bit scared of him

Aquamarine1029 · 10/10/2018 21:19

He's a fucking man-child arsehole. Why are you with a twat like that?

busybarbara · 10/10/2018 21:49

Some people are attracted to "bad boys" I guess, not me but I'm not gonna complain as it means less idiots on the market for me to run into Grin

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Mummaluelae · 10/10/2018 23:47

He called his boss by accident. Wasn't destroying evidence at all. Works getting to him and he's just stopped smoking. I am not attracted to bad boys haha maybe when I was 15 but that was quite some time ago!
Me scared of him? Not at all. I offered him my phone as a way of communication. I'm at home, he at work. What if something happens at home regarding DC? What if he gets stuck in traffic and running late home or is in an accident? The first person you contact besides emergency services if necessary is your partner!

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buscaution · 10/10/2018 23:56

Wow. A ridiculous argument about his phone and he throws it at the wall and breaks it Sad

I don't know what's worse, that he did it, or that you think everything is ok Sad

AgentJohnson · 11/10/2018 00:26

Why are you taking responsibility for his stupidity and aggression. The what ifs of not having a phone are what he should have considered before breaking his. If you want to moody coddle a grown arse man, knock yourself out but it doesn’t benefit anyone, especially you.

Blondebakingmumma · 11/10/2018 06:57

Does your husband usually throw things at you when he is angry?
You don’t deserve that

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Mummaluelae · 11/10/2018 09:03

Nothing was thrown at me or my direction

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TheSecondMrsAshwell · 11/10/2018 09:45

Nope, my old phone would dial even if the keypad was locked, which has led to some mortifying conversations, particularly with the emergency services operator (it particularly favoured 999). My DSis got a hard case for hers cos she kept handbag dialling various people.

HarmlessChap · 11/10/2018 09:55

If he's just stopped smoking he's likely to be experiencing nicotine cravings which can easily make you short tempered.

Personally I don't get what the issue is with his phone pocket dialing people and why you were picking him up about it.

Extreme reaction but when dealing with withdrawal from an addiction I think you can cut him some slack.

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Mummaluelae · 11/10/2018 15:17

Maybe I didnt make it clear. He mentioned to me about his phone. I merely made a suggestion and have done before when he's noticed its called someone by mistake.

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GreenMeerkat · 11/10/2018 15:58

Ah. Having quit smoking myself I do understand the mood swings. He acted appallingly and there is no excuse but that does go a long way in explaining his behaviour. Glad he has apologised