When everyone thinks they are a nice guy

[Casperandme]

Just looking for sympathy and others’ experiences I guess. How do you cope when someone has treated you quite badly over a period of time, yet everyone else seems to see them as “a nice guy”?

I’m really struggling with anger about this. We know lots of people in common but they don’t know the history and it seems so undignified to tell them. Has anyone else had this?

I’m so angry because I feel like I’ve lost a battle I didn’t want to fight in the first place and like I can’t say anything without seeming a bit bitter and unhinged.

@Hideandgo you have a point but then you have the people that ask questions and it's not something I want to discuss so you have to shut them down or worse you get pity bloody hate that so that's why I keep quiet not to protect the abusive twat.

I’ve never felt pitied. Or that I should be. I was in a bad situation and I fixed it. I’m matter of fact about the reasons and always add that when he was behaving like that I never thought it was about me, he had and has his problems but it as utterly unacceptable so I left. Difficult and all as that was. I hold my head high over the whole awful situation. He didn’t own me. There’s nothing to pity other than him.

Thanks everyone. Nice to know I'm not alone.

Isn't it a shame there wasn't some sort of secret ranking system for these men?

I think that's just life. People can't really be bothered to critically think about most stuff and they just hang out with people who are easy and sociable because it's just easy. Unfortunately, easy, sociable people are not always nice and/or kind.

Honestly, these days it doesn't even bother me. Let people hang out with/see who/what they want. If you let it bother you, you'll just get bitter.

Did you not want to be with him?

I hate this!!

People think this about my ex - they think he's lovely... when he's really not

He left me pregnant and still hasn't seen his child.

And people know he's got a kid but don't know he's never met him 🤯