What's wrong with people?!

[Newbabies15]

There's a group of 6 girls and we have a whats app group. We know each other since university. I'd say I'm friends with two of them and one of them is ok. We knew each other from school though.

One of the ladies I'm friends with asks us to do things as a group and I'm always nice to the girls I'm not keen on. I find them snobby and narcissistic.

Recently one of the girls I'm not keen on has been sick and I made an effort with her. Asked her how she was regularly, offered help etc. Since having dts she has not once asked how I am or even asked about them!

Thing is she complains constantly and never takes responsibility for her health. I'm sick to death of it and the other girls think I'm cruel - they visit her and ask her how she is and mooch around her stroking her ego.

They're all going on a hen do together that costs £500. I said I wouldn't be going and noone has said a thing. Not even , a sorry you're not coming.

What's wrong with people?!

Or perhaps she is a good friend to them?
You need to unclench, and find new friends

Yeah true.

I understand what having twins is like but you really can’t ask everyone else in the group to rearrange their plans just for you. Especially when you only actually like 2 out of the 5!!

After we had our babies there were things we couldn’t go to, including a couple of important things. That’s just life I’m afraid. Children change your world and your priorities.

Other people are entitled to make their own choices and not to consider your preferences.

You haven’t spoken very nicely about this group at all, but yet you expect special treatment? That’s not really how the world works I’m afraid.

It’s only a hen do, it’s terribly unimportant in the grand scheme of things.

I've just had enough. I just expect them to be good friends like I am to them. I am always considerate of their feelings etc and I've just had enough now.

You sound a bit judgemental and jealous tbh. If you can't afford it don't go but it's a bit narcissistic to expect everyone to be like "oh I'm so sorry you can't go"
At the end of the day you are all adults and can pick and choose what you do and with whom.

I don’t like the expression ‘loser’ unless it relates to someone who refuses to work , doesn’t try in anything and blames everyone else

I'm sick to death of it and the other girls think I'm cruel

I’m not sure that this comment sounds exactly like you are always considerate of their feelings.

Having new babies often creates new friendships but at the same time sometimes it means we need to step away from old friendships just for a little while. Perhaps that’s where you are just at this moment with these women.

Don’t burn any bridges, just step gently away - having two babies is an excellent excuse. Once your twins are older you might find your way back to the friendship.