I think it’s over

[TwinkleLittleBat]

Just hoping for some support really. DH told me tonight that he’s not happy and wants to leave.
I honestly didn’t see this coming. We have just moved house, thought we were getting on just fine.
I don’t know what to do or how I’m going to cope without him :(

Sorry you're going through this. Was he unwilling to talk about it?

All he’s said all night is that he’s not happy and he doesn’t think he wants to sort it out :(

That's shit isn't it. I'd be suspecting someone else was involved in those circumstances, if he can't tell you what it is that's wrong. Sorry OP.

Sorry to hear this OP cant imagine how you must feel

A lot of posters will tell you he’s probably met somebody else. Whilst that might be true, it also might not be.

Is he suffering with depression at all? Has anything happened this year? Would he be open to counselling?

Has there been anything suspect in his behaviour?

Him meeting someone else had crossed my mind, he’s adamant that’s not it though (still undecided whether I believe him or not!).

A lot has happened this year, one of his parents passed away and a few other things that would be far too outing, so depression is highly likely. There would be no chance of counselling, I’ve suggested it many times in the past to help him deal with everything going on and he’s always shut it down.

I’ve asked him if there is anything we can work on etc in our relationship to try to save our marriage but he “doesn’t think he wants to”.

I have no one irl I can turn to, left all my friends behind to move to a new city when we got married and have since burnt bridges with them. I can’t speak to my parents atm as I can’t deal with having to admit to them that my marriage has failed.

It really does seem that there is no coming back from this. I just don’t know what to do. I love him to bits and have supported him through so much :(

I keep trying to sleep but every time I do I can’t stop thinking about how it’s all gone wrong and what’s going to happen.

Nope, nothing out of the ordinary, certainly nothing to suggest another woman.

Please reach out for RL support.
It may seem impossible but please do try.
It's so important right now.
Could you move back to family and friends?
You will some support and hopefully they can provide it.
I would suggest there may be someone else in the background but with what he's been through it could also be depression.
But you can't help him if he won't help himself so it's time to lookout for you now.
Do you have DC together?
What is the housing situation?
Mortgage? Rent?

I would do some digging for an ow.
Also - read the script.

That's awful, so sorry but I would also suspect OW esp as he is unwilling to fix it; I would doubt depression is the cause also.

First off so sorry you’re going through this. If he has refused counseling or shut down talking over problems previously then it could just be him depressed and grieving unhealthily not necessarily another woman. Good luck

Sorry this has happened, Twinkle. I would also suspect an OW; even if there isn't one, I'd assume he's serious and therefore no longer your friend, and start to make some plans. Do you have DCs?

Just wanted to say sorry you are going through this. I'm struggling along at the moment on my own marriage and I know exactly how you feel, I haven't slept much over the past few days over the enormity of my marriage ending and it's horrendous. However, I know I will be OK and so will you. Just take each moment as it comes and breath through it, you have the strength within to get through this...(talking to myself and you). Agree also that you need to talk to a friend, talking helps immensely xxx