divorcing parents, one wants children to have flue vaccine,

[Allalittlebitshit2019]

Very difficult and nasty divorce, stbxh is very controlling . Im considering getting the children the flue vaccine, but it opens up a hole host of issues.
What do separated parents do? Feels wrong just to get it done, but if i mention my intentions i know it just wont happen as he will veto it. I do have a residency order if this makes any difference.

I think if maybe you have changed your opinion and are no willing to now give the vaccination to tour children where you have previously refused. If you explain your reasons for changing your mind, would he maybe not take them on board. As it is terribly sad that the pair of you ( or him ) can't be amicable for the sake of your children.

ovendoor, in the case of immunocompromised individuals, the injection version is safe, as it contains dead flu virus and not the live one like the nasal spray. That's what we do as we also have a family member who has to be careful around live viruses.

No im not able to discuss with him. He declaired he wasnt going to speak to me again nearly 2 years ago! You would think that that makes life easy but no hes as abusive as ever!!!
He thinks hes above me so would be little anything i suggested! Hes very unreasonable, hence hes taken me to court 4 times in the last year!!!

Why has he taken you to court four times?? Over things like this? How was it received by the court? I feel your pain, OP. I have a similar ex.

Child contact he plays a lot of games he also lies. So he will take me claiming i am stopping him seeing them. Yes i have stopped him a few times but always for valled reasons, eg child ill, he wont disclose his address, won't return them etc etc. He twists amd turns everything!! Hes also refused to discuss things with my solicitor so it had to go for a half day hearing! Where he represents himself, and lost, next time his behaviour was dreadful leading up to court, he then hired a barrister thinking they would get him what he wanted, it didnt work he again lost. Hes very high and mighty hence why there is no communication. Its very compicated? So glad im nearly divorced!

Oh my god, OP, our exes could be brothers. Very similar, it's quite scary. Courts must see this kind of thing all the time and yet these wankers have free rein to continue to behave this way. I'm sorry OP I have no further advice. Just sounds like you are doing nothing wrong. Just keep putting the kids' needs first as you are.