Just when i thought i had got away....

[TheMuteMoose]

I would link to my previous thread but i am not sure how, but in short i managed to escape a very controlling and mentally abusive relationship a month or so back. The man (if we can call him that) was extremely controlling and possessive, he manipulated my family and friends. Everyone thought this man was the best thing since sliced bread, but i had to deal with him behind closed doors. Whilst he was working away i managed to pack him stuff, change the locks and tell him where to go. All has been good for 3 weeks, no contact as he was unable too as blocked on all platforms. Till friday....

Little did i know, when you block a number on your phone it does not block on whats app. I had deleted my whats app, as he was virtually stalking me on there when we were together, questioning when i was online i wasn't talking to him and i must have been speaking to other men (ridiculous!) He managed to get hold of me on Friday... he spent the entire weekend crying, begging me to take him back, give it another go. I refused and refused time and time again. Finally by yesterday he had worn me down, i called to agree to trying the relationship, and his reply... ''im sorry my head is a mess i dont want this''

I know what he has done, he did this to hurt me. To get pay back for me deleting him out of my life.. but why oh why does it hurt so much?

This man is toxic, i know this. He chips away at me, makes me feel so small and insignificant. Like i will never get anyone else and that i need him.

I suppose i just needed somewhere to write it all down. I have told him once again it will never work and i will never be able to be friends, and i will be changing my number.

That's so terrifying that he nearly managed to get back in! Thank goodness it did end this way. Go have the best day now and revel in your freedom.

Be kind to yourself, but don't let this happen again. Block, delete, change number.... whatever you have to do

How did he get hold of you on WhatsApp if you deleted it ? You can block people on WhatsApp as well. Stay strong and don't talk to him again.

DrMum- Thank you, this man is dangerous. I feel sick to the core.

Shoxfordian - Unfortunately i thought after 3 weeks of no contact, i could re download my whatsApp to speak to friends and family again, we have groups set up on there. Because i no longer have his number in my phone i am unable to block him. I can only hope IF he contacts me on there i have the will power to block immediately

I remember your previous thread.

The fact that you saw through him and got rid of him after 6 months is amazing, most don’t see it for years.

Usually men like that need to have control over the ‘end’, the hounding you until you change your mind and then rejecting you is text book, if you just delete/block him on everything hopefully he will now go away since he feels he’s got the upper hand.

You just need to completely ignore him, don’t let yourself get sucked into speaking to him at all and you will be fine.
I know it hurts but it will get better.
My mum would say “it will hurt, but that will fade, he is a bastard and that will never change”

JollyAndBright - Thank you, i feel SO lucky i saw him for what he was. I honestly feel like i have been so lucky, even though it has been so so hard. He swept me off my feet this weekend, he made me feel like the only and most amazing woman on this planet, begged forgiveness and for a clean slate and when i finally agree he drops me like a piece of shit. Im not sure if he wanted revenge, or the upper hand, but he can have it. I dont have the strength in me to carry on the fighting and the trying to understand.

I am not the crazy one, i am not the unstable one. HE IS. I feel sick he has tried to turn this all on me, blame it all on me.

Ah I see
Next time he messages you then just block straight away

Yes i will be doing.. its been hard enough to try and get over it without him trying to get back into my life.

OP, that behaviour just confirm to you what an absolute psycho he is, don't let it bother you, just sign with relief and ensure he's blocked of every frickin thing possible, well done you.

sigh not sign!

He was furious at being rejected, and wanted the ego boost of knowing that he could worm his way back in. It's actually not a bad thing that he's got what he wants - with any luck, he'll now move on. This hurt you because you happen to have real emotions. It doesn't feel like it now, but it is a good outcome. Let him enjoy his "win" and make sure you never, ever give him any wiggle room to get back in again.

If he is on your call log in WhatsApp just block that way. You’re making life unnecessary complicated, I think you may be slightly addicted to his attention. Which can happen when you’re an empath and he is a narc. Just block block block

Or change your number altogether , problem solved

Him dropping you is a blessing in disguise, it really is.

What a wanker. Wearing you done there doing a 180... can you not block him on WhatsApp? (I don't use it so don't know).

*down not done!

Biblionmania - Thank you, you are thinking along the same lines as me

FMPMTW- I am not sure what to make of your comment. He is not on call logs or any chats on whats app, so as far as i know i am unable to block till he/if he contacts me again. I am far from addicted to this mans attention, if i wanted attention i would seek it from a mentally stable man. I have worked exceptionally hard to move on from this, and will continue to do so.

GreenFingers - Thank you, i do feel lucky in a way. I feel sorry for any of his future partners