Long story short.... met on tinder, both mid divorce, both mid 40's, he's on his 2nd. His kids are nearly grown, mine are much younger.
He was very full on early on. in hindsight maybe too much so. Told me he loved me within a month, I do love him too, it's been 3 months.
He has basically said he doesn't want to be step daddy, it all went wrong when he did this in his second marriage... but, I haven't asked him to!! It's like he is reacting to what happened before. My kids have a dad.
He's met my kids as a friend and they now know he is my boyfriend, but nothing more. No sleepovers, no family days. I worry about some of the things he's said.... for example, He tells me he is still angry with his ex having an affair....
he said he wanted to do a thing with me next year, booked time off work (I didn't ask him to) and is now saying 'I don't want to plan too far in advance I case it all goes tits up. But ITS ALL COME FROM HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE!
I guess I'm wanting thoughts, does this sound like a man who is not ready for a relationship? I'm so sad I've got 3 months in and he's now not so keen, it's so unsettling. Feeling mucked about... supposed to be flying for a mini break next week too 🙄
Any advice? Words of Mumsnet wisdom?